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writes:Today was my boyfriend and i 4 months anniversary and we indeed spend the day together.Today was the day we actually kiss so long and so deep,well whiles we were kissing he touched me alot,and he sucked my breast and afterwards we both felt bad,his reason for feeling bad was that he felt that he went to far.And i also felt bad too because i felt he went to far too.Is their anyway to feel better about myself now and can their be any advice that could be given so i would not feel so anymore when doing this in the future when i am much more comfortable with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks you guys,your advice really help C.Grant and veronika!
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reader, veronika  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 First of all, you need to understand that you do not have feel guilty about sexually expressing yourself.
However, if you felt he went too far and he feels he went too far, then you both need to talk and figure out sexual boundaries so the line doesn't get crossed again, at least until you're both comfortable with it.
But try and let go of the guilt by thinking of the fact that you did nothing wrong, and even though he "went too far", understand that he probably didn't know of your boundaries. Talk about sexual boundaries. It's probably the most effective way to make sure you don't feel bad in future about it.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (7 March 2010):
 There's a saying: "good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of experience comes from bad judgment."
You sound very sensible, so understand that hey, mistakes happen. You can feel better about yourself right now because you recognize it was a mistake, and you've learned from it. In the future you'll listen to the little voice in your head that tells you when you're in danger of crossing the line. You moved too fast this time, so you'll tone it down.
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