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26-29,
*lla-Leigh
writes:my ex boyfriend and I split up for 2 years now, I know what you're probably thinking 'you're only a teenager', but I still find myself crying myself to sleep most nights thinking about him. I really try my hardest not to think about him but its hard.I'll explain more about the relationship we had - we were together a year, he wasn't just my boyfriend, he was my best friend, we done everything together we didn't go a day without seeing each other, we broke up after him telling me he didn't see me the same way as he did at the start, this broke me, I didn't go out of the house for days, I didn't speak to anyone, I was literally a mess, crying constantly.I've tried to move on a few times, seeing different people, but I always end up finishing with them because they just aren't this one boy. Also I have tried moving on by getting lots of girl friends so I can have a laugh with them and do normal girl stuff but that still doesn't seem to work.I find myself getting more and more depressed over this boy and as I said crying myself to sleep most nights, I cry if I ever see him and cry when I think of him. I feel this boy is taking over my life without him even knowing.I don't really have a question but I was just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on anything else I could try to get over him? Thank you for reading.
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (20 April 2012):
 You are around the age where you are about to start college- I would suggest going to one that is a distance away from where you live. A fresh, new beginning might just be the thing you need.
Otherwise, I strongly suggest you start seeing a counselor/therapist. I know things like this take time but it's been two years since the break up and according to you, it's getting harder, not easier.
For it to be getting worse, there is nothing anyone on here can do for you, so please seek out professional help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): I feel for you I really do!
When I was round your I had the same problem took me 2/3 years to get over an ex.
What I would suggest is some counselling perhaps.
Go to your doctor they will be able to point you in the wright direction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): Getting over someone you loved is a hard thing to do. It's hard but not impossible. Often times people say oh just go out and meet new people or hang out with your friends. The problem is not doing those things its the thoughts you let creep into your head. If you constantly think about that person, constantly wonder about the stuff you guys did or how they could do that to you, it will stay fresh in your mind. That being said you need to stop thinking about him and fully move on. If you are going to hang out with your friends do it whole heartily be in the moment not in the past. If you are going to date other people, don't compare them to him. Look at them for their original qualities. Don't break up with them because they are not your ex but because of your incompatibility with them. For example you date someone but they constantly grind their teeth or they are rude to other people. Those are logical reasons not to date a person. It's annoying and something you don't want to deal with. The most important thing is to give yourself time. You yourself will know when you can move on.
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