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writes:I'm a 18 y/o female, not a virgin. I've only had one sexual partner but he was a lot older and more experienced guy, so the sex was great! He taught me a lot...However I'm now going out with an 18 year old virgin, who hasn't done Anything sexual... We had been going out for a month and the other night we started to fool around but it was a nightmare.. His kissing was forceful and sloppy, and he didn't know what he was doing with his hands.. Gave him a handjob and he was over in about 3 minutes :/ Just wondering if I'm meant to be telling him? Teaching him? How long is he going to be like this for? He is a lovely guy and I want to be with him, this doesn't change that. Im just used to experienced easy sex and this was quite.. unsatisfying.Tips???
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 of course you tell him... and even show him... what fun to have together and explore this new uncharted area!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 December 2012):
 Patience. Teach him how to kiss. But you can't teach him to last longer. Take it as a copliment that he didn't last long, it was probably the first time a girl touched him like that, and the feeling can be overwhelming. You need to be patient. He will learn, no need to give lessons, or written feedbacks. You learned, and I am sure your ex didn't write you lessons or gave you homework. You just learned by doing. Your new boyfriend will also learn by doing.
The more you kiss, the better he will get at it. But you need to give some sort of feedback, such as moan when he does something you like, or move his hands to where you want him to touch you. But never any negative feedback.
As for teaching him how to kiss, tell him "I like to kiss this way" and then show him. And be patient. He will learn.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 December 2012):
 YES!!! Not only should you be teaching him, but you have a rare opportunity to show an inexperienced guy exactly what pleasures you. To wait to see if he can read your mind is not even logical, much less possible! Most people suck at sex at first, with all of that fumbling and laughing and slobbering and nervousness.
Remember, this other guy taught YOU. Time to pay forward. You can't compare this new guy to the old lover. Show your new guy how to kiss, what to do with his hands, hold off on the handjob until the last possible second, because 3 minutes for a young virgin is 2 minutes longer than many virgin guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012): You tell him as things are happening I don't like this but I do like this.....and show him what you like. He won't learn unless you help him :)
You tell him what feels good.....you praise him for the good and help him with the not so good
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