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He "remembers me how good the sex was"? Was that all I ever was to him? I'm so hurt by this.

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Question - (27 December 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 27 December 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, *urlyq8 writes:

So it’s been 1 1/2 months since my ex and I broke up and I've slowly started to rebuild up my strength until he decided text me last night out of the blue .

He was just asking what I was up to and if I like any boys.

He mentioned how word got out that he likes this other girl and that it is true.

I replied with "I heard and I'm happy you're happy and moved on" and that’s when he told me he still thought of me.

Not until later did he tell me how.

Turns out the past two nights he's been horny and was thinking of how "nice" it had felt with me?

I was hurt and questioned if that's really what he remembered me for. He replied it wasn’t he just had been horny and thinking of that in particular. Am I nothing more than that to him?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (27 December 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou may not have been just about the sex but with him contacting you out of the blue like that and bringing it up he's looking for a booty call honey... Ex partners make the best FWBs...

don't be friends with ex partners... it's never a good idea.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (27 December 2012):

janniepeg agony auntWhen he told you about the other girl, he was expecting you to get jealous, because according to him you should be sad, sitting and waiting for him to get back to you. He can date whoever he wants but you, you have to stay single and just think about him and miss the sex. Your cheerful remark made him feel small, like why did he ever bother texting you again. He didn't like that you were not missing him, so at least he wanted to be remembered as a sex god. He can't have you but he hopes that he's better than the next guy you are having. He is out of your life so whatever he thinks about you doesn't matter anymore. You know your own worth. Never let other people's statements bother you. It's possible that for a young man like him sex is everything in a relationship. Their brains have to grow up more to meet the emotional demands in a relationship.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012):

Maybe that's not all you meant to him, but I do believe the only reason he contacted you was because he was horny and probably hoping you'd meet up and have sex. That also explains why he asked you if you have any other guy in mind.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2012):

"Am I nothing more than that to him?"

Unfortunately, I would have to say that IS all you were to him. Of course he's not going to tell you that, because that would destroy any chance of him ever getting to have sex with you again.

Don't become his booty call.

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