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writes: I proposed a boy... at first he accepted, but then he wanted time from me... He told that he hasn't that kind of feelings for me, even he said, from the beginning he thought me as as a sister... so he needed time to grow his feelings... but he didn't rejected me also...then... we started talking normally... but it wasn't that 'normal' i guess... like whenever he talked about other girls, i became jealous... he enjoyed that and tried to me make me more jealous... and whenever i talked about other guy, he behaved also strange... he liked to hear 'i love you'... and i used to tell him... even we used to do adult chats too, he also took adult pics of mine from me... i gave him because i was sure he would accept me again... and he explained that, by doing those kind of things, he might be able to convert his feelings...that's how we were going on... ya, sometimes he said that i wouldn't be happy with him, i couldn't live live with him etc... but i replied, i would... and suddenly he started changing... he started talking like this : i don't know about future, i'm not telling you to wait for me, but someday i can accept you...and many moreand somedays ago, i came to know that he is in a relationship... i asked him about this and he replied that she was her good friend, so there was no reason to tell 'no' to her... i was shocked... i asked him then why he gave me hope... he answered he told me before not to wait for him! and he tried not to hurt me, that's what i thought "hope"now i don't know what to do... i really really love him... without him, my life stopped... i changed my dreams, my career goals for him... now there is nothing left for me... sometimes i think, his relation may not last forever (i don't wish that, but i'm sure)so should i wait for him?once he said 'if u can be like my family's choice, u can give proposal for marriage in future to my house'that time he was in a relationship! (but i didn't know about it)... and may be at that time he had a fight with his gf... i don't know...i can't forget him, what should i do!? should i wait or what?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 September 2016):
 I hope you are strong enough now to stay away from him. If anytime you are in doubt come here and look at the answers hopefully that will keep you on track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers! You guys are right! :)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (29 September 2016):
 Nope don't wait for that.
And please read Wise's advice.
You REALLY need to put some breaks on, girl!
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reader, N91  +, writes (29 September 2016):
 He's using you to stroke his ego.
You guys will never get together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2016): You are way too deep and too aggressive about your approach to boys. You truly need some parental-guidance, and should be more focused on your school studies.
It is very easy to tell you spend too much time thinking about boys. You are so stuck on this boy, that he is using you; and he has tricked you into giving him naughty pictures of yourself. You should never try to bribe people into liking you. That doesn't work, it only allows them to play around with your feelings.
Truly, your parents should keep a closer eye on you. You're going to get yourself into trouble. Proposing to boys?!! You're only 16-17 years old! You have yet to get a full education, and decide what you want to do to support yourself as an adult. You're talking about marriage?
You need to put more time and energy into your schoolwork, just making friends, and think like a kid. Enjoy having fun, and being a girl; and less time trying to trap yourself husband.
Is there something so bad about being a kid, that you need a husband? Is your family life okay? If it is, do your parents know you're out looking for a husband so young? Would they approve? Your fantasies are out of control!
Sweetheart, dump that nasty boy. He's playing with your feelings, and he'll keep upping his demands from you and will not marry you. Aside form being too young for marriage, he apparently doesn't want you for a girlfriend. He's going to show those naughty pictures to people you don't want to see them. If your parents find out; you're in a world of trouble.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 September 2016):
Sweetie this guy is using you, he does not see you as potential wife material, but he does not mind having some no strings fun with you, and maybe hooking up. Please stop with the adult talk and pictures. Those pictures could end up on the internet for all your family to see. Stop this with him now you will get hurt if you carry on, he is using you. Please do not let him. Your life will get better without him you will meet someone who loves you back. You deserve much better.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (28 September 2016):
 There is zero reason to wait for this guy.
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