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writes:I have a best guy friend. For about 2 years we were always together , flirting, deep connection . I can't explain it was more love . Everyone used to think we was a couple I'm 99% sure he liked me but neither of us pushed for it .I wasn't sure whether the feeling was best friends or more ;plus I wasn't for letting things go Furthur due to my plans to travel for a year. When I left the country he stopped talking to me, straight cut me off/ ignored after saying how much he miss me, most amazing girl etc .My travel was only 2 months due to my mental health issues arising . When I came back he randomly turned up and surprised me , saying he cut me off so I could enjoy travelling and not be messaging him all the time . I was still pissed off but didn't show it. We didn't speak again for a few weeks and I plunged into a relationship with an old flame . It lasted 3 months but didn't feel right so we ended before xmas . 6 months on I miss my old best friend so much, I was scared to text after all this time and his knowledge I had a boyfriend. I bumped into him today in town and he seemed happy to see me gave me a hug,, he seemed really casual like yeh we can catch up soon . He acted like he didn't know I was back from travelling ... when he did because I told him when he surprised me I was back. Was he acting like that on purpose ?Bottom line I feel so much for him, seeing him today showed me how much I miss him. The connection is more than love or friendship. I even saw a fortune teller a while back and she knew nothing about me and brought him up and said we are soulmates and will get married.Should I tell him and how ?We haven't spoke for ages apart from today I don't want to come on too strong but I don't want to miss my chance to tell him how much he means to me .
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 February 2017):
 Call him up and ask him would he like to catch up. Be flirty and friendly but also tell him you missed him.
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reader, rasblak  +, writes (19 February 2017):
Maybe this is a great learning opportunity to make up your mind what kind of girl you want to be here:i) will you be the girl who does the 'tackling' , as my ex-gf called her approach with me, or ii) will you be the girl who figures she'll give as many clear hints and suggest as many meet-ups as a self-respecting girl can suggest before deciding that for whatever reason, the ship has sailed, and most importantly, she needs not have any regrets for she has done quite enough.What is your concern about adopting the direct approach? Are you afraid of ruining the mystery and tension? or is it a concern that he'd just be happy to take the boost to his ego and reject you, and you'd be left wondering, 'was any of the tension ever real, or was it all just in my head' ?In the latter case... you're not alone. Welcome to the club :)
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (19 February 2017):
 You have absolutely nothing to lose but so much to gain. Phone him, ask him out for a meal or a drink, and chat. Keep it light and friendly. He, after all, probably has no idea about your feelings so, if you were to suddenly spill them all out, he could turn tail and run.
Take things slowly. See how they develop and where they lead. It may work out, it may not (I'm afraid I am very sceptical about "fortune tellers" - skilled people readers at best). However, you will never know if you don't try.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question*i mean tell him my feelings (not what the fortune teller said lol)
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