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writes:Well,my problem is somewhat weird. I broke up with my bf few months back. I thought i would never get over him but i guess i am over him though not completely.During this time,i met a guy online. I have known him for years. He asked me about my recently changed facebook status i.e. Single. I told him everything and then we started chatting regularly. This guy was infact my previous roommate's crush. Things didn't work out with them coz he got interested in me! So i thought it would be best if i stepped out of it and stopped communicating with him. And that was four years ago. Now,he wants to have affair with me. I like him but i am not sure of my feelings for him.Its weird but i also feel my ex bf would think bad of me if i started a relationship so soon! ( although he was the one to leave me!)i am confused. Plese help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): hi frustated. You are confused like you said. Because in one hand you think you are over it and in the other you wonder if he'd feel bad. Why worry? You don't need to show him you are still mourning. In fact if he cares he'l be glad that you moved on. Because that would make him feel less guilty since it was him who broke up. And about starting new yes you should! Just make sure it is not the result of vulnerability issued due to heart break. Getting drunk and getting laid is what dumped ones do which trust me is very regretable later on. And this affair of yours, is it something like love or just having fun? Everyone needs love in the end, I'd have a rather committed relationship myself. Because love is beautiful. But its upto you now. You have every right to fall in love. Your ex wont feel bad. Take care. And change your name. Frustated sounds really frustated . Sarah
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 If you've broken up with your ex, it's not an AFFAIR to be dating someone else, unless the new guy is married or in a serious relationship with someone else.
If he's also free and single, then GO FOR IT! Who CARES what the ex thinks? My guess is that he's out looking for a new girl too. Forget about him and go HAVE FUN!
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reader, Frustated! +, writes (16 April 2010):
Frustated! is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for your answer.
Yes,u did understood my question. This current guy is single and has been so for quite a long time. My roommate and he never had any kinda relationships. And i guess,she no longer has crush on him.
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