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anonymous
writes:i am overwhelmingly in love with my wife's sister, and have been for almost 4 years since her divorce. she has 2 boys. i am not in love with my wife and we haven't been intimate in years (at least 10). i want to divorce my wife, and begin a relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage to her sister.
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reader, Hayatori +, writes (1 December 2009):
 I agree that you should talk about your marriage first and if that don't work than go ahead and get a divorce and try things with her sister however, you will probably end up getting a divorce with her sister as well... Think about that.
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reader, hotmommanell +, writes (1 December 2009):
You love your wife, but the two of you haven’t been intimate for a long time. Meanwhile, here is the sister who is around making your blood boil, a fantasy that theoretically is within reach. What I think, is that you are IN LUST with your sister in law only because your wife is not being physically intimate with you. Fix that first before you even think of a divorce. It should be common sense that taking up a relationship with the sister in law will be a disaster. I would not go there. If you think one sister would be comfortable taking her sister’s sloppy seconds you’re crazy. Do everything you can to try and save your marriage first. If you’re still convinced go ahead and divorce, but look for love outside of you ex-wife’s family. Trust me that it’s for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): Aunty BimBim what on earth is "a few casual bonks" with the sister? What are formal bonks with the sister? Since when is bonking with relatives casual? I don't think it exists.
Anonymous here are women stating they are attracted to their BIL:
http://www.google.com/custom?client=pub-5526847726645345&forid=1&channel=0000377717&ie=ISO-8859-1&oe=ISO-8859-1&sitesearch=www.dearcupid.org&cof=GALT%3A%23008000%3BGL%3A1%3BDIV%3A%23336699%3BVLC%3A663399%3BAH%3Acenter%3BBGC%3AFFFFFF%3BLBGC%3A336699%3BALC%3A0000FF%3BLC%3A0000FF%3BT%3A000000%3BGFNT%3A0000FF%3BGIMP%3A0000FF%3BFORID%3A1%3B&hl=en&q=brother-in-law
or just type brother-in-law into the search engine on DC page.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): I have read many letters about men who desire their wife's sister. None that come from a sister who wants the husband of her sister. That should give you a warning: I doubt she will be interested.
But if you do not feel you can go on being married to yoru wife, and if you have no morals against divorce, do what you feel is right. However I doubt you will have a future with the sister and she will always be out of reach. Distansing yourself from her by divorcing your wife might help you get over her and find someone new though.
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reader, bitch +, writes (1 December 2009):
I am so sorry but this would never work out and in the end this relationship would be very unhappy because of all the conflict it will cause in the family. You should not marry her sister at all. You should get a divorce and move on in order to be happy and have a fulfilling life. But to marry her sister would be the worst thing you could do for you and your family in the long run. I am sorry but honestly this is all I can say to you. I wish you the best. You can find love again, but her sister is just too close to home.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 Your wife would have to be an incredibly forgiving soul not to hate you for wanting to leave her...and then marry her sister! If you are that unhappy in your marriage then get a divorce and move on with your life. However a relationship with her sister will cause terrible conflict within your family. I am quite sure her sister is not the only available woman within 5000 kilometers of where you live. Therefore you should move on and find someone else who is less complicated.
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reader, s.a.r.ah_  +, writes (1 December 2009):
wtf?
what is ur issue?
like, your going to ruin there friendship.
There sisters.
If your going to divorce ur wife.
Dont try to get with her sister.
You'll just start stuff between the family.
Because your wife, will probably be a little bit mad at her sister, yah think?
and her sister will be mad at your wife for being mad at her.
and then both of them will try to get family memebers on there side, and alll this bs will go on.
& if you care about any of them at all.
You wont do it.
If you do, i hope your wife knows some bit meaaaaannn deiced guys.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 December 2009):
 How does your sister in law feel about this? How will your families celebrate Christmases and birthdays. Are you expecting your wife to be quite comfortable with the situation, do you think your dumping one sister to try your luck with the other will leave their family/families intact?
How do you know you are in love with the sister, have you had an ongoing relationship, or a few casual bonks or have you just decided without any preliminary actions by either of you?
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