Is five months too soon to move in with my boyfriend?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months and we're thinking of moving in together. I spend about three or four nights a week with him anyway and we were on holidays together for over a week and got on great! I've known him for about ten ...
A. 12 February 2013: The right time to move in together is when you're sure that you're marriage-serious or when you are committed to a LTR. Just dating and a desire to conveniently merge households and share expenses is not the right reason. In the end, though, it's ... (read in full...)
I'm going away for 2 weeks and we went on one date. Will he forget me in that time?
Q. Hi im on an exchange in germany at the moment but just before I left me and this guy ive liked for weeks went on a date it went really well so the day I was leaving we met up. That went really well and we kissed and he was on about meeting my family ...
A. 12 February 2013: He could, but it sounds like that will not happen. He's expressed a lot of interest, so I wouldn't worry. Just go on your two week stent and try to think about anything but him until you get back. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.... (read in full...)
He makes me feel secondary to pornstars. Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough?
Q. Right my situation might be perceived to some as someone who has got their priorities wrong but I will continue.... Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough? I am sure that he cared l...
A. 12 February 2013: Almost no reason is too dumb to dump someone if you can't get past it. Everybody has their "deal-breakers" don't ever ignore those or let anyone tell you they're unreasonable. Know why? You are the one who will have to live with the consequences.... (read in full...)
I can't stand his personal hygiene! Am I shallow?
Q. I have this great friend and we have gotten really close this year. I feel like our friendship is effortless and we could work as a couple but there are a few issues. I feel so shallow saying this but i can't stand the smell of his breath. I have ...
A. 12 February 2013: Uh, hell no, you're not being shallow at all. Being disgusting to touch and kiss is a problem when it comes to an intimate relationship. The time for hinting has past. Anyway, guys don't respond well to hints at all. Frankly, I think you need to ... (read in full...)
I've been so lonely and insecure after breaking up with my girlfriend.
Q. After a year, my break up , i couldn't find anyone to be with. I'm alone , 27 . and i showed my intention to girls but there is no respond. my big problem is i have no company to go with friends. because i'm working hard on my thesis , and alw...
A. 12 February 2013: Breaking up S-U-C-K-S, I know. But you’re writing a thesis? That’s AWESOME and important work and frankly, you really don’t have time for chicks right now. Plus, you need time to heal from that hussy you broke up with. So what if you don’t have ... (read in full...)
Our dates went well, he was interested in seeing me, and now he's been ignoring me for 2 weeks?
Q. To cut things short, I was dating this guy I met at my uni.. We weren't seeing each other for long, we met, he got my number, we spoke on whatsapp for a week or so and then decided to meet up. We saw each other three times. We went out to dinn...
A. 11 February 2013: NEXT! This is a classic sign of "he's just not that into you" or he's a homicide victim, either way, you need to move on. Don't spend one more second worrying about this guy or what happened. He hasn't spoken to you for two freaking weeks!!!
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My husband is very quiet and doesn't make much conversation with anyone... including me! What can I do?
Q. Hi, i'm at a loss as to what to do about my husband. He just doesn't make conversation- with me nor other people. He's got worse as he's got older, not better. And the worst thing about this is that i've got a really outgoing personality and ...
A. 11 February 2013: Why did you marry him in the first place if he’s such a god awful bore? That’s what I’d like to know. Look, you are not going to change this man unless he wants to. Does his reticence bug him as much as it does you? It sounds like he’s a shy ... (read in full...)
He blatantly stares at other women in front of me. How do I handle this situation?
Q. We've been around and around this issue of his staring. It's blatant, it's bad and I'm getting tired of it. We took a mini-vacation together. Just the other day he looked at the bum of a young woman as she turned to the cash register at a ga...
A. 23 January 2013: Two ways to solve this problem. The first is obvious. Leave his a**. He can look all he wants by his d*mn self. Second way, don’t take this a second longer. Tell him 1) it is disrespectful to your relationship 2) it is disrespectfu... (read in full...)
Do I accept my husband's wandering eye?
Q. This may sound like a silly question but here goes....Im a 40yr old married woman and mother. My husband and I have been married 20yrs and have 5 great kids. The issue is that everytime we go out my husband is constantly eyeballing women half my ...
A. 29 April 2012: You will have to accept it. This is something all men do, and men like young hot women. Unfortunately it doesn't matter how hot a woman is the man is always wanting for something different. Why do you think there is porn and half dressed women ... (read in full...)
Advice needed quickly! How do you know if a guy is sincere?
Q. How do you know if a guy is being sincere (as opposed to the extreme of just wanting to sleep with you and then leaving)? Just for context: I was in a more serious relationship with this one guy, but the relationship didn't work out ultimately b...
A. 7 October 2010: I knew my current husband was sincere when he didn’t rush me into sex, when he made the effort to be with me, and was considerate of my time and feelings. He also asked me a lot of questions about how I would want to live my life in the future, if ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a threesome just to keep their partner?
Q. Has anyone had a threesome just to keep their partner? How did this work out?...
A. 7 October 2010: No, I haven't. But I will say this, you should NEVER do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or that compromises your morals or integrity to keep a partner and that partner - if they are worth keeping should not expect you to compromise your ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 7 October 2010: It's a lie that people find blacks in general unattractive or black women in particular as unattractive. The black models, actresses and singers wouldn't get any play if that were true. What I do hear a lot of is whites - and some blacks relying ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my husbands excessive partying?
Q. Hi everyone I got married 4 months ago and my husband has changed for the worse. I'm a security guard who works for a large security firm (my shifts are daytime at an office in a large city, night-time at another business who also hires the firm ...
A. 5 April 2010: I'm afraid I'm going to have the same problem one day. If you absolutely cannot deal with it and cannot compromise, you may have to leave him. But if you love him, and want to work it out you will have to come to compromise.
Allow his weekend ... (read in full...)
My husband won't communicate with me
Q. My husband and I have been married for seven years. He isn't much of a talker. For example, at dinner, I'll ask him a question and his answer is very short and concise. When he comes home from work, he very rarely tells me what happens during the ...
A. 18 February 2010: LOL. I have the opposite problem. I am the "husband" My fiance is an extrovert and likes to talk - a lot. I am an introvert and I'm not very talkative most of the time. I would rather come home, relax by reading on the computer (which he ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best friend's husband
Q. Over the past few years I have come to have very strong feelings for one of my dear friends husband. I am also married. As much as I try to move past these feelings I cannot. I know to feel this way is morally wrong. I just don't know how to ...
A. 21 January 2010: Cool your jets, all of you ladies. Just because you’re feeling a strong physical/chemical attraction to these men means nothing more than that. You have no idea how it will turn out, if you went for it. It could easily turn sour. Don’t you ... (read in full...)
Although my instinct here is to end it...i want to salvage this relationship?
Q. Bit of a long question here, but I'll try to be concise: My girlfriend has said some things over the last month that have made me very suspicious of her and some of her male relations. For context: She has a lot of male friends, who are all...
A. 1 December 2009: My answers are as follows: 1.) What are her motives here? Answer: Who gives a flying f* what her motives are? 2.) If she's willing to lie to my face about something she did only hours ago (and very believably, I might add), how can I trus... (read in full...)
Should I end things with my wife in order to be with her sister?
Q. i am overwhelmingly in love with my wife's sister, and have been for almost 4 years since her divorce. she has 2 boys. i am not in love with my wife and we haven't been intimate in years (at least 10). i want to divorce my wife, and begin a ...
A. 1 December 2009: You love your wife, but the two of you haven’t been intimate for a long time. Meanwhile, here is the sister who is around making your blood boil, a fantasy that theoretically is within reach. What I think, is that you are IN LUST with your sister ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sweet and caring, but he really ogles other women!
Q. My boyfriend is genuinely sweet and caring, but when it comes to looking at other girls he makes me feel really uncomfortable. The last episode was yesterday when we were on the train and he saw this girl sitting with her boyfriend in a short skirt. ...
A. 1 December 2009: My ex-boyfriend had the porno eye. Lots of men do. Depending on how he’s ogling, and how often, it certainly is disrespectful of you and the relationship. But I wouldn’t make it about you, because it has nothing to do with how beautiful you are in ... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll be interested if I call him?
Q. I recently met a man at a party. We were chatting for a while and I found him really interesting company- he seemed like an intelligent, unassuming and basically nice guy and we had quite a lot in common and, on first impressions, similar outlook on ...
A. 26 October 2009: Leave him be. You ruined it! I strongly believe that women never need to chase men. EVER. The reason is how men are. Men will take whatever is offered. You may not be their type, he may not be interested in a LTR, but he will sleep with a woman ... (read in full...)
I am confortable being frumpy, but want to be attractive
Q. I feel a bit Bridget Jones writing this but I am truly feeling like life is passing by. I'm 35 and have one failed marriage of 13 years behind me - no children. I am comfortable in my own company but I feel like I am stuck between wanting to find ...
A. 26 October 2009: Every woman wants to be hot. It’s like it’s imprinted on our DNA, so it’s no wonder you feel as if you do. I can remember in the not so distant past when I was a complete frump and had no idea how to dress for success. Then I started reading ... (read in full...)
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