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writes:This girl really hurt my feelings when she called me a stalker... but I was not stalking her - or harrassing her. I just sent her messages on myspace saying 'hi' and that I hoped she had a good day... and then I left her alone. She then came into the place I worked at with her dad and I totally ignored her but when I was building up enough confidence to look at her, she looked kinda mad. When I saw her 3 months later, she called me a stalker while I was walking by. I want to apologize to her but I don't know if she was mad that I was not talking to her or if she was mad because I was near her. It now hurts to think about her and I heard she was a kind of a stuck-up girl. I believe this is true but she was a nice kind person to me sometimes - and occasionally flirty and she hates being judged. I never really talked to her in person but when she showed up that day she seemed like she was going to be sweet if I would have talked to her. This all happened a year ago but I still think I should apologize to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess i should say that she was walking with a friend and her friend was laughing so hard that she almost fell down...and I was not paying any attention to her-I was looking down and I heard the word 'stalker' and seen her a little later on and realized that she was talking to me
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Ha Ha I too had trouble figuring out what Soon103 was trying to say in the second post. But now that I think about it his first post could be correct. Some girls do like to kid around like that. Ask someone she knows well like a friend and ask her if she really thinks you're a stalker.
But bro, I know how it feels to be called a stalker for real though; when I didn't even know her last name. If she really meant it one provocation could even get the police involved so don't talk to her unless you know she was joking just to get a rise out of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSoon103-what does that mean? you were the only one who said to ask her-but you changed your mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers...but I have decided that some things are more important right now
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): Oh man ur a nice guy and ive done the same...u have no bad intention but the socially accpetable behavior in an open society strongly suggests you may have an ulterior motive for ur messages. Hence, why the brod thinks ur stalking. My advice: Forget this girl, dont chase her, and ur kindness is appreciated by other girls.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (16 September 2010):
I hate girls like this. First girls expect you to make the first move and talk to them and then after you try to make contact if they don't like you they act like you're obsessed with them or something.
Don't ignore her for good just yet you need to put this stuck up bitch in her place. Tell her to get over herself and stop being so over reactive. Tell her if you had known she was going to be this way you never would have said hello.
Then call her fat that always works. Now ignore her. She'll either be pissed which is a win for you or strangely enough be turned on by your brash behavior. I know right? Women can be rather pathetic sometimes.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 September 2010):
 I agree, IGNORE! & let it go.
And..... take yourself off her Facebook page. I don't think you need to apologize at all, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't want you too. IMHO if you apologize you are admitting to some wrongdoing, in this case, stalking.
She isn't worth the trouble.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (16 September 2010):
 This is drama you don't need...believe me if she is going to call you a stalker 3 months after the fact and that is the only contact you have had, then you must understand that even addressing her now is futile.
IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Just leave her alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Do what Dirtball said, just remember this girl is a seriously high strung drama queen by the sounds of things.
As Dirtball said don't apologize she'll definitely think you're a stalker then. Just completely ignore her and move on. She's no doubt telling anyone who'll listen that you're a stalker now, even though you're not. Don't do anything to add more fuel to that fire.
This girl is way more hassle than she's worth, seriously if a girl turns around and calls you a stalker after a menial little message on myspace then you should have nothing more to do with her. Let her find another victim to moan about, there will be plenty more trust me.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Let it go. How often were you leaving those little messages? She has no interest in you, and talking to her will serve no purpose but to make things worse for you. By apologizing to her, that will be just like admitting you were actually stalking her. You need to ignore this because it is not true. Never have contact with her again.
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