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writes:Hello, I'm 18 years old currently in college freshman year and I have feelings for my younger cousin she's 15 and currently in freshman year of high school. Here's the thing first I was only physically attracted to her. I mean I didn't think about it I will just see her once in a while and think that she was cute that's all. But about about 2 years ago her family moved to my house (family stuff don't really feel like explaining that part) the thing is that we live in the same house so about a year ago I realized that actually liked her let me get something clear we don't really talk much. So after realizing this I separated even more from her like we occasionally say hi when we see each other thats about it. I was hoping to leave for college so I could just move on but unfortunately our economy sucks so I had so stay around to save some money. She has a bf now and that gets me jealous but to be honest don't really now what to do, should try to confess to her get rejected and move on ? I mean don't get me wrong but I don't really make a drama out of this i would be he happiest guy on earth if she likes me back anyways I just what an opinion of what should I do, try something or move on? Thank you for your help and please be mature enough to give a serious answer:
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): Alright thanks for your answer, I'm not really going on her or anything like that like I said in the post we barly talk so I already now what's up just trying to get it out of me and move on like I said I'm not making a drama out of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): 1. She's 15. Below the legal age of consent.
2. She's your cousin. It may not be against the law, but she's your cousin. Someone you're related to by blood.
3. She has a boyfriend.
In my opinion, three valid reasons not to go down that road.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (21 September 2011):
 Hi,
You mentioned she is your cousin? Isn't it wrong to have a relationship with own cousins? She's a family member, right? If there's even a possibility, how would your family feel about this? I think you should consider that before making any decision.
Advice: if she does have a boyfriend, you need to find out how serious they are. If she truly loves him, etc. From then on, If you still feel so strong about her, then talk to her, and let her know your feelings. Even though she's in a relationship, doesn't mean you cannot express your feelings. Also, it will be a good idea to become friends with her, spend time, get close, do things together. Who knows??? She might start liking you too, after getting to know you better.
I know it's bad advice to tell you to make a move, when she's taking. But, I feel that at her age, it's probably not serious relationship, so it's fair game.
Hope this helps...
Good luck
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 September 2011):
 Yikes! There's something you should be thinking about before you start winding yourself up over this girl. This answer is about as serious as a stroke:
She's JAILBAIT.
Meaning, you get with her, you go to jail. She's too young. She's a kid, you're now an adult. You do not want to start your life out with a statutory rape charge that NEVER goes away.
You need to leave her alone and get your mind off of her. Distract yourself by whatever means necessary. If she's free in 3 years when she's 18 and you're 21, then go for it! But now??? Do not confess your feelings. Don't even go there. She is jailbait and a child, and you're an adult.
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