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writes:Whilst seeing someone new my best friend made it clear he wanted to get with me. Let's call my friend P. P's best friend told me he was in tears when he found out I was with someone new. I stopped dating this guy in hopes of getting with my friend. We were both out on the weekend, including our friends and the guy I was dating (L). I heard that L was upset and was threatening to beat my friend up. One of L's friends approached my friend on the dance floor and told him he was out of order because we were dancing. Whilst out P's Mom phoned me as she was worried about L's threats. But she told me that P is in love with me.I cleared the air with both lads and assured my friend he'd be okay. L said he'd by a drink for P next time we're out. and R (the other boy) hugged P apologising. After this me and P agreed to take things slow. After that night out we arranged to go back to his. We had to get out of the taxi on the way home because he was sick. I started to walk him home but instead he insisted on walking me back. In the morning I found out he went out clubbing after with a girl who he used to kiss and flirt with. He even sat with her whilst she had a wee in an alley. Staring at her.I went to my friends the other night it just felt as though we were friends. Whereas on the night out we were so close, kissing, dancing. Sober he says 'love you mate' and we aren't as physically close.Feel confused! One thing sober, another drunk!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 August 2012):
 P sounds like a big baby.. Not someone mature enough to actually DATE someone.
It's not uncommon for some people to be "braver" whilst drunk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): Why are you confused? it's kind of obvious P is spineless while sober and only has the balls to tell you how he feels while drunk. The fact that instead of making on a move on you sooner he cried like a little baby when he found out you were seeing another guy.
Be careful here OP, you're probably going to have to be very patient with P if you want him, he sounds very flaky.
You said you're going to take things slowly and that's all well and good but just don't expect him to be very forthright while sober because he seems to be quite meek in those respects, in fact he has basically gotten his mother and best friend to get you for him. You know what I mean? Just slightly cowardly if you ask me, but hey that can be a cute thing to girls too.
Just be prepared for a lot of mixed signals OP, you're probably only going to know how he really feels about you from second hand info or while he's drunk. But he may relax a bit and come out of his shell after a while.
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