One night stand why didn't he call back

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

To make a long story short, I had sex with a guy from my office last week and he bailed right after. I noticed he had been staring at me over the last several weeks, but we were never introduced. At a late office party at a hotel last week (where I had a room); he was there; we were all buzzed; a mutual friend approached me and said, you see that guy across from you at the bar, you guys are a match made in heaven, you should go talk to him. It seemed like the guy was waiting alone for me at the bar. So I went over and introduced myself, he started telling me how he speaks foreign languages, and served in Special Forces, etc.. He asked me if I wanted to go to another bar to hang out, but since it was cold I suggested that we just sit in the hotel lobby. After an hour or so chatting in the lobby, I called it a night since I was tired, and he seemed sad and said he was too tired to drive 30 minutes home, so I invited him to crash on the sofa in my hotel room, which he happily agreed to. We played that game for a while, talking, until I went over to his cot and kissed him. We made out for a while in our underwear, then I said, let's not have sex, let's go to sleep, and he agreed, but started masturbating on his own. I felt bad for him so offered to have sex with him. He gave me a lot of compliments on how I got him off, and exclaimed he had no idea that was going to happen that night. The next morning he woke up and seemed pensive and distant, staring at the window, but we chatted and had sex again (which I again initiated). I told him I wanted to orgasm (I hadn't yet), could he do it again. He said probably, but he needed his phone charger first for his business. He asked me questions about my sexual preferences and my availability the following week. We agreed that he'd get his phone cable from his office and come back to the hotel room. But shortly after leaving he texted me a somewhat frantic message about work stuff and would take a raincheck. I didn't hear back from him, so two days later I texted him, how was your week? and he responded with short, sometimes one word answers, so I let it drop. As some background, he is 10 years younger than me (he's 34, I'm 44), said he struggles with PTSD; and appears to have recently split up with a young wife leaving a young child between them (less than a year ago); he is also running a successful company which he founded. Also, I look a lot younger than my age and am often complimented as 'hot'. My questions - should I not have slept with him? Was the sex so bad that he never called back? Was he even interested in dating me ever or just sex? If he wasn't interested in me why was he staring at me at work or asking me out at the bar?

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