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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he makes me really happy, I love him so much. In that time I've had a few men interested in me, and I've never wanted to or felt the need to cheat. However last week my male friend, who I've known for a while has liked me, tried to kiss me and I let him. I kissed him back. We werent drunk, I didnt pull away at first, I liked it. It ended me realising what I was doing and him appologising and leaving. It was my fault, I knew he liked me and I didn't stop him so I can't blame him. He's said he's sorry and he knows I love my boyfriend and it didn't mean anything. I never thought I'd do anything like that, but I have. I feel so bad on my boyfriend, I've broke his trust. I love him, I've never had feelings for my friend. My other friend said maybe this shows I'm not happy with my boyfriend. But I am, it doesn't mean that does it? Why did I let my friend kiss me? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): I kissed my friends boyfriend at a party recently. I am married and in the 10 years I have been with my partner I have never done anything like this. Its a double betrayal by me. I honestly think that sometimes you just crave excitement and the sexual rush of kissing a person for the first time. You can love someone immensely but you never get that "first kiss" feeling with them. The best thing you can do is say nothing and try and move on. It will hurt your boyfriend too much if you tell him and a kiss is not worth that. I know I will be frightened of my own behaviour for a while to come as I feel sick at the thought of hurting my friend and my husband. But don't beat yourself up too much as we are all warm blooded animals and sometimes we are not calculated enough to stop some animal behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I'd put that 'friendship' on hold for a while...you dont want this to esculate. meanwhile, work on your relationship so this doesn't happen again!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 instead of kissing any of the random guys that are interested in you, you chose to kiss your friend who you have obviously known for a while. this is normal, and kinda shows that you do love your boyf and dont wanna be with just anybody else. this male friend has been a presence in your life for some time and with him liking you, something was bound to happen - whether it meant something or not. if you are 100% positive that you do love your boyf and you do want to be with him, then try and forget it and move on. if there was nothing behind the kiss then dont be too harsh on yourself hun, we all slip - at least you know you made a mistake and are able to admit it. but i just have to point out too - you liked the kiss, you didnt stop it, he left not you - wat does this mean? do you like this friend? think about that before you make a decision.
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reader, jabey +, writes (27 February 2008):
these things happen, and yoou know you are happy with your boyfriend. You can be happy and madly in love but it is human, to enjoy being liked by others, and if someone is a good friend it is natural to sometimes show affaection. Ok in this case it went to far, and sadly it has worried you. But from this you have learnt how much you love your boyfriend and now will never get yoourself in that situaition again.
Your male friend is probably saying you must be unhappy because of course if he likes you he wants you to question your present relationship, because that will give him a chance, so ignore that comment.
You have done the right thing by apologising, now move on forgive yourself, and enjoy the relationship with your man.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 It was just a little kiss and sometimes things just got carried away. Don't be too harsh on yourself.
There were too many sparks in the air and you got zapped.
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