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36-40,
*jekim
writes:so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) We started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the time.We went to the movies and had an absolutely great time and I realize, holy cow, I think I really REALLY like this girl. Afterwards I get home and we are texting and I ask her was she seeing anyone, she says No, but actually broke up with her last bf pretty recently, and still need some time to figure stuff out. Plus She is going to Japan at the end of this month and is gonna be gone for 4 months, so I didnt really want to start anything and then just leave for that long. I was so embarrassed I apologized, she said it was okay. I didn't text her the next day and she texted me to see how I was. I apologized one last time and didn't want her to think I was just being friends to try and date her. She said she didn't think so, but thanked me for telling her. Now everything is back to usual, we are still hanging out and watching movies and stuff over Skype. But I still really like her, so much. but im not surehow she feels.We have been texting back and forth and skyping when she is free for a while after she went to japan.i have been putting together a box of books and magizines she gets normally as a welcome back giftfor when she comes back. Is this okay idea?Should i message her if she was interested in going out when she gets back. ( which doesn't seem like a great idea) or wait till she gets back, give her the gift of books i got her and ask her out, or forget about her and this whole thing, sell those books and just forget about. my dad and another friend said forget about her, and sell the stuff i got her and dont contact her again and say if see her at work, just treat her like another customer.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (28 May 2015):
 I agree with CMMP - don't give her gifts in hopes of making her want to date you.
ASK her out. ON A DATE. But wait till she gets back, DO NOT do it over a text/message - ASK her out in person IF possible.
So think of what might be a nice way to spend a few hours, make some plans and ASK her out. Make sure you give her a week or so to readjust before asking her out.
IF she says no thanks, then YOU tried. If she says yes, then GO have a great date.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (28 May 2015):
I would not give her the gifts, maybe ONE gift, but you can't buy her with a bunch of stuff and by playing Mr. Nice Guy.
When she gets back, tell her you got something you thought she might like, and ask her out. Not as friends, but on a date.
If she says no, sell the other gifts and just be friends, but don't let yourself get hurt.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 May 2015):
 stop overthinking it.
she seems to like you
you like her
when she gets back, take her out for coffee or something and give her the box of stuff you have saved for her.
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