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No contact since our breakup. Could we date again? And what does kissing on the ear mean?

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Question - (29 October 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2015)
A female age 22-25, anonymous writes:


I had a boyfriend who kissed my ear the first time he kissed me.

He was so concentrated on my right ear with his tongue participating mostly. We broke up after i found out he had a girlfriend somewhere else and was dating us both.

Though he doesn't know that i know he has a girlfriend whom he seem to have a very serious relationship with; when we broke up i told him that i was not happy in our relationship.

All about his secret girlfriend relationship i saw it on his secret facebook account. I was (still am) a virgin when we met, he tried to engage me into sex at first i was sure i didnt want sex then later. .i was so close to give in.

Sometimes he would be angry because i cancelled our meeting, or i was standing with a guy (my classmate) talking or we agreed to meet at 02h00pm and i arrived at 02h15pm.

I tried to tolerate it because he was older than me with 5 years difference. So i've decided i'll just let him not be my problem anymore.

Unfortunately after him, its been a year without contact and i couldn't find someone that loves me and i love him back. I still think about him but wish to stop already. I'd like to fall in love again. Also what does kissing on the ear mean? It just crossed my mind today. Thanx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2015):

He's an idiot. 5 years older might not seem much but you have to realise that 99% of older guys dating younger girls are looking for power over you, that they can't get by dating a girl their own age because she would see right through it.

You WILL find someone else. Don't rush. Also, don't feel you have to give in to someone who wants sex, if you say no then a genuine guy who actually loves and cares for you would stop and not try and convince you to give in. It's a big deal, trusting someone so much to be intimate with them so certainly don't let some cheating scum bag have that moment with you. You deserve better than that, and you deserve someone who will love you and respect you. If any guy in the future tries to make you give in and have sex the they are not interested in you for anything else other than having sex.

Be fierce and be strong minded, you have sex with who you want to and only when YOU feel ready to do so. This guy wouldn't have spent time thinking of you, and if you had slept with him he wouldn't have stuck around. This might be a mega rant, but it wasn't long ago I was young and I had a guy pressure me and presure me for sex, he ended up not listening to what I wanted and doing it anyone so I can't advise strongly enough to stay away from idiots like that.

As you grow older, aim to be a woman who takes no shit and realise you're equal to a man, and not something to be used for his pleasure.

Now go out with your girlfriends and move on from such a waste of space guy!

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (29 October 2015):

Fatherly Advice agony auntLike everything else in your story, Kissing your ear (with tongue) probably meant that he was trying to see how fast he could get to sex. It is an incredibly intimate thing to do, and never for the first contact. Get that cheating bad boy out of your head.


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