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*rish98
writes:I never thought I'd fall for a married man! I didn't intend for things to get so heavy.I work in the same building and see him everyday..he just told me he wants to end our affair of only 1 month. Yet on the weekend he texts me and sends me pics of himself. Can someone please tell me why he keeps leading me on like this? Now here's the twist, he's the 1st man I've kissed,touched,blew and grinded with in 21yrs.He won't have intercourse,he says that's his line he won't cross. I have been with women until I develpoed this attraction to him. I'm sooo confused! Any advice will be great. Thanks
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Whether he really likes you or not, he is a married. Stay away from him.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 He's already said he cannot continue seeing you. If he texts you on a week-end, delete it and don't respond. Make him stick to his word because you are always going to be on this see-saw of emotional suicide if you continue to be the "other woman". He's probably just going through a phase and enjoys the attention from a new woman. He will just run back to his wife when his guilt gets the best of you. You'd be wise to cut the tie now before you start really falling for him. It will never work out.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Hi,His wife is on to him, either that or he enjoys playing with your head.Passion and lust are one thing, but there are other things in life such as morals and principles.He's a coward, and has no feelings for anyone except himself.If you want to be used, carry on. If not, get out and stay out. You can do so much better than him. He's exploiting you for a quick thrill. Move on without him Irish.Good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 January 2010):
This is a guy's way of making sure don't go away, just in case he needs another fix. It's likely his wife suspected something, so he's cooled it down. Now ask yourself a question. Do you want to be second best to a married man, who do you want to be someone very important to someone else?
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reader, Keyshantasy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 You pretty much answered your own question there sweetie-He leads you on because you let him, and he knows you are are vunerable because he was your FIRST in 21 years. The line he should'nt have crossed was cheating on his wife-bieng that you knew he was married just added fire to his already over heated flame. Brutally honest-he played,is playing and will continue to play HIS game as long as you let him. I know you think that you have fallen for him but it may just be the IDEA of falling for someone that makes you think this is the real deal with a LOSER. You DESERVE way better so the next time he sends you a picture of himself, you send him one back-your LEFT or RIGHT hand with only 1 finger left standing and we both know he DESERVES that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Hey there, Firstly, love your username, girl! lol Now, about your posting. Well, this guy can email and send pics of himself all he wants, but I sure hope you are not responding. If you did..I have to ask..are you nuts? He is married. When a married man cheats, he really is a dishonest man and his true character stands out--you were a fling...that's it. And now that he's broken it off, he still is continuing to emotionally cheat on his wife with you. So you need to stop allowing that. End all contact and tell him it's done. You have wasted only one month on a man who likely has no intent of leaving his wife and family. Let him figure out his life and you need to figure out yours. It sounds like he was meaningful to you. How sad. A smart girl doesn't base these feelings you give a guy, on secrecy and deceit. The quality of your life and your future happiness with someone else, one who can give all of themselves to you..will depend on how you deal with these fears of losing this 'inappropriate' man. End it and move on. Take care of you and save your gift of love for someone who loves you; one you can love and respect and gives the same back--definitely don't waste any of your emotions on a cheap affair with a loser. Good Luck!
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