My Latin Lover has become a Latin Monster

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am a Canadian woman, late-20’s, and dated an Italian man for just over three years. At first it was magnificent, the hand holding, gentle face touches, dancing in the dark, romantic romantic romantic. We moved in together and it was downhill from there. He was unemployed, I worked full time and studied for my Master’s full time. I would come home and was expected to clean the apartment, keep the kitchen orderly, wash the clothes, etc. I tried to talk to him about it and the response was “I am an Italian and I have never once touched a dish in the kitchen, nor will I ever”. Need I get started on the jealousy issues? I am not a flirty woman by any means. I have always been faithful, and I had a lot of self respect prior to meeting this man (ahem - monster). After we moved in together, I was called a wh*re daily, constantly accused of infidelity, my panties would be examined whenever I returned from work, I would have to forward work meeting invitations just to prove that I was not lying, my belongings were no longer mine, my performance in bed was constantly compared to other women, had a phone thrown at my face and broke my nose, my tooth was chipped with a fist of his, countless dishes were smashed on the ground, a laptop computer was broken over my back, was kicked while already on the floor crying because of his harsh words/accusations and at the end of two years, I tried to cut my wrists. I had seen therapists and was chastised for it, I tried to manage my work, commute, school, house, boyfriend schedule, and was perpetually reminded of how incompetent I was.

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