A
female
age
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anonymous
writes:After years of marriage I found out that my husband had emotinal affairs in the skype,chating,calling,and meetings with his ""women friends.Maybe not only emotional only.He intoduced me a woman 2 years earlier,and she started sending me thank younotes for the candies,meditation cd,and the lovely card.She wrote that my husband is the best friend she has.That she needs help and someone to talk and he is always there for her.That he EVEN sings for her to calm her down on the phone !I met him in a blind date and I thought he was the whinest person I've ever met.Later on I found that he had many,many women friends,ex girl friends friends,crushes from high school friends.His ex wife left him and never wanted to talk with him again,neither her 2 kids.Many years he would look for her.He said she would talk with him before,but suddenly vanished,and also her kids.He would send cards and gifts and they never wanted anything with him.He would help every one,and he helped me too as his girl friend.He was the nicest,charming and cute as a boy friend.I always somethig was too much but his friends always loved him so much,that I though I was the wrong one.I found him too ""nice"" to his female friends.His ex girl friend used to call all the timeasking for help with her computer,her house...and when she lost her drivers license she asked him to help her move to another state with her 5 cats.He said that,would be better for me not to go along because of my allergies to cats.I was getting upset because he ""couldnt see"" that they were after him,and he said that he was just helping them.Later on after our marriage he started to work with his ""ex high school crush"" and he asked her to hire me to do some jobs for her and once she treated me so badly,that I told him I'd never work with her again.And I always thought he had some ""crush"" and favorite his brother's wife because she was pretty. She could be awful with me,but he always had an excuse for her.""she is just ignorant""he would say.In parties he would be all over his ""friends"" and leave me completely alone.I'd try to be with them but I'd be noted,or just a little.He always met some beautiful woman.Even in our honeymoon. A woman called and said she couldnt go out with him that day.I asked,and he said that she was nice to talk to and he invited her to dinne with us.For years I was feeling alone and sad.When I told him 3 months ago,he raged at me screaming that he cant stand me being sad.Another characteristic of him is that he is the only one that can be upset and scream.I can never be upset.I have to be nice,all the time.He can yell,scream,be upset,have all the friends that he want.Once he called my friend ""pathetic people"".well,I left,but now I need a lawyer.I am pretty sure he planned to make me crazzy.He was leaving me alone all the time,didnt want to sleep with me anymore,was angry and everything I did was wrong,and that woman was sending me thank you notes for thegifts.Also,he gifted his ""ex high school crush"" a very expensive gift.His ""beautiful female boss"" suddenly made fun of me,saying ""are you sad?""I dint understand until late that he was talking about me with them.Another friend of us -a woman of course- told me that I am dumb.All happening in one year.On the top of all of this,some of his friends were telling me to pay attention on my husband because he was behaving weird.I asked him to stop skyping,chatting,calling,and meeting those ""friends"" and he told me he'd never do that and if I wanted I could leave him.I left.I think I was set up.But I did a mistake,I have no lawyer.What do I have to do?What are my rights?10 years of marriage. Last 5 years of housewife.Anyone of you are a lawyer? Could you tell me what to do?What are my rights?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 March 2014):
 You will have to see a lawyer in Argentina.
P.S. Based on my google search for 'divorce law in Argentina' I think you should move back in and make HIM leave. Do not abandon the home or it may look like you are the party abandoning the marriage.
Make sure you document all evidence of his cheating actions, write them down as you have here and if you have documents keep them as well.
Sorry but you will have to see a lawyer there in Argentina.
Good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 March 2014):
 we cannot advise you. YOU must get a lawyer ASAP
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 March 2014):
 Get a lawyer ASAP.
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