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writes:I just dont understand what went wrong, but my girlfriend of 4 years had just told me today the worst news I could possibliy ever hear. She told me she liked someone at work and that she wanted to be with him. I have never expected this to happen because I have never done anything to wrong her. I love her very much and it crushes me dearly to hear those words from her. Ive never treated her badly at all, I do all I can to be the "one" in her life. I would buy her anything she likes or anything would make her happy. My first ring I bought for her, I sold most of my prized possesions to get the money because back then I didnt have a job. Everytime shes hungry I always buy her favorite foods for her and I always tell her that she dont have to worry about her weight because I dont mind. Ill follow her anywhere and everywhere, and I gave up most of my friends just to be with her. I never cheated on her, crushed on anyone, hugged or kissed anyone besides her. I never flirted with anyone else and I have kept it that way for 4 years. Although Im still in high school, I hoped to be engaged with her because deep down I believe she is the one for me, therefore I wouldnt mind going to extremities to make her happy. I didn't mind much when she talked with other guys, but sometimes I get worred and I ask who that person is since some have a "reputation". She ends up getting angry and we get in arguments, but even if Im right, I always apologized. After hearing that she made out with someone else adds so much to the pain. I begged her to stay with me, I promised her that if she stayed with me Ill make it so that the rest of her life she will always be happy. But she was still confused, and that only hurt me more.Ive always wondered why people commit suicide due to a bad relationship. I now know why. I believe that even if I get a "new girlfriend", she will only end up being taken away from me. I dont know what to do, no one has been able to help me, ending it all seems like something that would make it all better, but the question is, what should I do next?
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reader, blueydblond +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Sweetness.Goodness....Just the WORD "relationships" has an entire dictionary full of meaning and definitions all in itself.Good and Bad. Unfortunately, you have gotten the raw end of the deal here. You can only do so much babe, before you have to say enough it enough. Ending it all may SEEM like the easy way out, but honestly no woman is ever worth your life. You can't make someone love you honey, and now what you may be feeling is a very strong love toward her, but 5 years down the road, you could discover a newer and stronger love that you never even imagined before. You have to give your life a chance. A chance to shape the person you are going to be in life. You can't depend on these little relationships from your childhood to determine the rest of your life.It hurts, and it will for a while. But as every day goes by, it will get a little easier.Things to remember, are to stay busy...Make plans with some friends... Don't jump into another relationship right away...Give yourself time to be just YOU! Don't try and force a relationship on yourself. You have to learn how to be just yourself before you can be with anyone else.It sounds like you have given up everything, for nothing.You need to distinguish dignity from pride. Don't let your pride get in the way of your dignity. Protect your heart from hurting and better yourself when you need to.Whatever you do...Don't offer everything to a girl right away...they will only take advantage of you. It is not worth it sweetie.Learn how to be yourself for a while. It sounds like your heart could use it.Best of luck Darling.XoXoXo
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 *Big comforting cuddles* Hun im so sorry that this has happend but im afriad thats life relationships end doesnt matter how hard you try some times that just happens and you just cant stop it, i know your hurting but dont you wan her to be happy your both still so young and have all your lives ahead of each other and who knows maybe one day you will be together for the rest of your lives but for now just let her stretch her wings and find what she wants out of life, you need to take some time out have fun with your friends and enjoy being young and free, theres plenty of time to settle down but right now you deserve to be young.
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