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writes:Hi! I haven't seen my girlfriend in over 7 months.. she has autism, bipolar and also cancer so she is pretty sick at most of the times, we also have a baby on the way and I love her but I don't know what to do as I'm always worried about her and we keep making plans on meeting but she keeps stopping them.. saying she's too ill, or tired, or sick.. could you give your opinion on this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 September 2014):
 I have done some research since my first response.
Pregnancy in people with lung cancer is very rare, doctor's will usually recommend an abortion early or, once the baby has reached 29 weeks gestation will delivery the baby early so they can then start treating the cancer.
In plain language if your girlfriend has lung cancer and is 7 months pregnant within the next week or two she will be delivered of the baby by caesarean.
Right after the baby is born the doctors will start radical treatment for the lung cancer.
I believe your girlfriend is not telling the truth about being pregnant or having lung cancer.
I would also suggest you talk to somebody older you trust, if you feel you cant talk to your mum or dad about this, what about an aunt or uncle, or older cousin.
I think your emotional involvement is not letting you see things clearly and talking it over with an older person might help to clear your mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2014): How do you know it's yours... I'd watch out in this situation , something smells fishy here
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (21 September 2014):
 Well if she is BOTH pregnant and having cancer then yes, I get that she might be VERY tired. But Like Auntie BimBim asked how come she decided to have a child if she has cancer? You can't treat the cancer while pregnant but pregnancy doesn't stop cancer either.
Don't you know where she lives? I mean couldn't YOU go see her?
It just sounds to odd that she is OVER 7 months pregnant and haven't been able to see you?
Is she is the hospital?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2014): Yes, she has cancer. Lung cancer, but it's being cured. I know for sure she is pregnant, I have seen her stomache via cam on Skype, that's how we talk, I also have seen pictures of her belly from different stages. I'm more concerned about her autism and bipolar as that's what is stopping us from meeting, she's tired all the time due to the cancer, but I just don't know what to do, I don't want to leave her but I haven't seen her in 7 months, so I just don't know what to do for our relationship, as we talk about meeting and why she can't see me, which is due to her having her own problems of bipolar and autism, but I just really don't know what to do. I'm concerned for her health and she doesn't quite let me in sometimes and we argue a lot on cam, and that makes her worse. I just want to see her and help her, and she isn't letting me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2014): I have worked with autism for quite a few years and you do have to be careful about how much you believe. Autistic people have a tendency to lie because they don't understand that lying is wrong, they just want to be like everyone else and what they don't realise is that they are just like everyone else in the world. Pregnancy is a common lie amongst autistic girls, have you had proof? I mean have you physically seen the scans and such with your own eyes? Does she look physically pregnant? And AuntyBimBim is right, the treatments for cancer would either harm or kill the fetus. I think you need to go and see her, whether she wants you there or not, go and see her and find out exactly what is going on, or speak to her parents and find out what they know.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (21 September 2014):
She's pregnant, you haven't seen her for seven months ..... she HAS cancer??? What sort of cancer? she cant be treated for most cancers and remain pregnant.
I think you need to very carefully consider the idea that maybe she is not being 100% truthful with you.
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