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My daughter cut ties with us. How can I make things right?

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Question - (30 August 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2015)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My 20 year old daughter moved and cut ties with her step father and I - How can I make things right?

I know most of this is my fault. There has been a lot of drama in our household.

My husband and I fight often and have not made good decisions in regarding my daughter, my husband and his son get into fights, and I hate to admit that my husband and I have done drugs off and on.

I know it has been hell for my daughter to deal with this and I didn't realize how bad it was until she left us.

About 2 months ago we had a bad family fight that included all 4 of us.

I found out when I returned from work the next day that my daughter moved out and moved in with her boyfriend and his roommate who live over 5 hours away.

I have only received 1 voicemail and 1 text from her since, stating that she is okay but does not wish to speak to any of her family for a while and that she needs her space and to basically leave her be.

I was okay with this for a few weeks but she will still not answer any of my phone calls or texts.

She is my only child I worry about her and want things to be right.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (31 August 2015):

Anonymous 123 agony auntWow...I feel bad for your daughter that she's had a mother like you and such a sad family life. Domestic abuse, drugs, drama...this is too much for any sane person to deal with.

Leave her alone and let her decide if she wants to keep any ties with you. To be honest, if I were in her place I would never want to see you again. You let her down. You cant expect her to just forgive you as if nothing as happened.

If you really want to show your daughter that you've changed then stop doing drugs, stop your self and your family from behaving like lunatics and get a hold on yourself. You're a mother and a wife...for heavens sake behave like one.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (31 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntWell, I would GIVE her the space and time she asked for - which means you STOP trying to call/text/contact her till SHE is good and ready - or you might lose her forever.

A few weeks was OK for you, obviously NOT for her, she needs more time. And YOU need to act like a grown up and RESPECT her.

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