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Is it time to bring this to a close? Seems I am now just a text friend and there has been no apology.

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Question - (30 August 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

May I ask for advice

I fell out with a guy I got close to

He gave me the impression he was finished with the person who he was with but was not the case as he has bought into a flat and had to see out the contract

Anyway because I felt led on I behaved very emotional and looking back a bit of an idiot

That was 2 years ago

He made contact last November after ignoring me for a year but then nothing

I wished him a happy new year and that was it for a while

Since then it's been the odd text but at no point has he called or wanted to meet

I tried to break the ice by asking him to read me to Facebook but he didn't respond

The last I heard from him was 10 weeks ago congratulating me on a new job I never told him about

It just feels pointless I'm not someone's text friend and I've never had an apology

Shall I just cut it dead ?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (31 August 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI agree there is nothing there to salvage.. An apology is not for you but for him... since he does not care neither should you.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (31 August 2015):

Anonymous 123 agony auntYes, cut it dead. You're not friends, you're barely acquaintances, this seems like a pointless whatever-this-is in any case.

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A female reader, MSA United States +, writes (31 August 2015):

MSA agony auntSome people prefer to cut all contact with people they've been with but didn't work out. Some people like to keep those people in their lives because at one point, he/she was an important part of their life.

This guy clearly wants to keep you in his life.. but at arm's length. Kind of like Facebook friends.. friends that once in a while like each other's posts or make civil comments on pictures etc.

I don't see any gain or loss here.. if you feel comfortable with occasional 'Hi How are you?' then keep the 'friendship', if you feel that it's wasting your time, then simply don't reply.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (31 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI would. There is no real point to keeping in touch. He is not a friend, or even a friendly acquaintance.

I'm not much of a fan of keeping people in my life who isn't a positive influence. This one? He seems to just text when bored or having nothing better to do... and that... I would just not need.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2015):

If you like him, take the initiative to engage in more conversations through texts, phone calls, and social media. Just because he said no once does not mean that he does not like you. Invite him to an informal date, and flirt with him to let him know you are interested in being more than text friends. When the time is right be direct and let him know how you feel.

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