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writes:Hi, just going to skip to the point realy,My ex-boyfriend- i still have little feelings for him,but they aren't as extreme as some people think, i don't know what to do though. We hardly talk anymore and i'm still in teenage years so you know how love can be for teenagers.Current Boyfriend- i love him so much but i just don't know what to do, He's absolutly amazing and i couldn't fault him. He's been through depression and i've tried my hardest to help him get through it.Whilst in this relationship i've cried over my ex because i don't know what to do about it, i inboxed him over an hour ago and still have no clue what to do. But the thing is, he doesn't put no effort into being friends with me. i asked my friend to inbox him and ask him questions like did i hurt him and does he still have feelings for me. And he said i hurt him, which i could understand yeah because it was my fault. and he specifically said it was my fault.Can someone give me some advise from past experiences or are really good with advise in these situations.i really do love my current, but i miss the memories from my ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2014): Yes I do know how love is for teenagers. They believe every relationship is "love" even though they bounce off multiple people in that time. You're too young to know what love is and you prove that by your indecisiveness. Having strong feelings for your ex, you remain in a relationship with your current boyfriend. You are trying to keep both of them and that's basically cheating.
I think you should be honest with your boyfriend, break up with him and figure things out for yourself. This isn't love and I understand you may care about him, but if he is going through depression, it's not healthy for you. I've been there. If he isn't then great, but break up with him. Let him know he isn't the problem.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 March 2014):
 Leave the ex alone ! Why should he " put effort " into being your friend ? Actions have consequences. You hurt him and you know that. Do you really expect people to make effort for staying bosom buddies with those who hurt them ? They would be stupid if they did. They can and should forgive them, they can get over what caused hurt ( since probably , at your age,is nothing life-changing and mind-blowing ), they can abstain from holding grudges and wish you the best... but hopefully they have learned their lesson and they realize that life is busy and time is precious, so free time is better devoted to friends that did not hurt them and would not hurt them.
An ex is an EX : put your energy into moving on, not into trying to lure him back behind the back of your current boyfriend. As YouWish says, this is emotional cheating... definitely the last thing that a depressed bf needs to feel better.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 March 2014):
 How would you feel if you loved a guy and he kept talking to his ex, asking her if she still had feelings for him?
You're cheating on your current boyfriend. If you're not over your ex, you need to break up with your current boyfriend and stop the cheating. Yes, emotional cheating is still cheating. You're young, so I know you have a bunch of hormones and all that, but you can't be going between guys, or you'll get a school reputation that's hard to shake.
Your ex has the right idea in not wanting to be your friend because you're not supposed to be friends. It's over, your relationship is over, and he's moved on. You need to as well, seriously.
You do not love your current boyfriend as long as you keep betraying him.
Stop contact with your ex, and that means *all* contact, like getting friends to contact him. That's creepy stalker behavior. You're young, but if you can't decide who you like, best to be totally single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2014): You've got too many guys at once.
The one with depression really needs to follow his therapy and take his medications.
You're too young to be dealing with something like that. Handling depression is an illness, and better left to his parents and therapist. You could do more harm than good, if you don't know what you're doing.
You need to leave your ex-boyfriend alone. You're trying to have them both at the same time. That will make your present boyfriend jealous, and more depressed. It's not fair, if he isn't text messaging other girls!
You're being a naughty young lady, by still contacting your ex behind his back! Stop that!
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