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writes:I am 19 year old and I have a current partner who's 36. I really like him although he's kinda pushy a little bit sexually. I told him I wasn't realy readyto have sex with him, that I could do oral and other stuff instead but yesterday he really scared me. After we had like oral sex, he held my hands to my sides and tried to have sex with me. He was about to you know what and I cried cause I really didn't want to it and I couldn't get off of under him since he weighed much more than me and he only stopped after three times I told him to stop. Now he's saying that next time this will happen. I'm sorta like confused, was it rape or not? Am I safe ?
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reader, mh26hm  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 well, from what you typed it sounds like RAPE!! he is forcing you to have sex with him and you denied it and still will not listen to what you have to say. he does not listen to your feelings and respect you on how you feel about why you are not ready for sex!! overall, you are in great danger and i think you should leave him before it progresses!! from how your boyfriend is handling your situation, later he could be an abusive, violent, and tempered person if you do not do of what he asks of you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): Like you are kidding right? You were sucking his dick and oh, what a brute, he thought he might like to have sex with you. Well what an asshole, where did he get that idea from? He should have asked you for permission, but of course you wouldn't have been able to answer, your mouth was full of cum. Before you call the cops as the previous sensitive flowers have suggested, I'd floss.
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reader, laurie-loo  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 this isnt on at all. this man was trying to rape you and is a disgrace to call a boyfrend. i know you probably love him but if he wants to hurt you and force you to do something into which you dont want to he cant respect you at all. i would seriously finish it as this man sounds dangereous and it sounds to me he is capable of alot more. i really worry for your safety and i dont think your boyfrend isnt enough of a man to be able to protect you and keep you safe. you deserve better than this man and you really should not sleep with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): No, I don't think you are safe with this guy at all and I would say that your ordeal amounts to rape. Ditch him immediately and report him to the authorities. If he is not dealt with now, things may be even worse in the future.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (27 May 2007):
 I don't think you are safe with this guy, and my advice would be to ditch him ASAP. He is forcing you to do things that you are not comfortable doing, he is still doing it after you have said no, in my book this is classed a rape.
Ditch him now, and while you are at it report whats he has done, because if he is like this with you the likellhood is he will do it again to someone else.
Good luck x
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reader, vixy +, writes (27 May 2007):
what your boyfriend was doing was trying to have sex with you against your will which in the eyes of the law accounts to rape. go to the police and say your that he was going to rape you or has raped you. and don't see him again. he's not worth it.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 If he doesn't stop the first time you say no, it is RAPE. Don't go back to him. He's not pushy, he's psycho, and you need to go do a rape kit with the police. He can be caught for DNA evidence and noticable bruising. Get as far away from him as you can.
DV1
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reader, candy00s +, writes (27 May 2007):
 If you said no and he continued or continues to try or have sex with you then yes this is rape. get out now he sounds like a bully. if you are not ready for sex then he should respect that and wait until you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): that was rape
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