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writes:OKAY.... I am 23 years old.. had a 5 year relationship with my ex boyfriend... during that time, we had a break up but we were still seeing each other so I became pregnant and that's how we got back... the reason why we had broke up in the first place is because he showed signs of cheating.. but after becoming pregnant and we got back together, the same signs came back again.. I left him when I was 7 months pregnant.. Hardly had my baby completed, 2 months old, when he began dating this cougar out in the open and freely.. He still came around wanting to see me.. I slept with him like 3 times and at the present time its been a year since the break up.. like two days ago, he moved in with the cougar.. He is 23 and she is 46... He calls me and wants my friendship.. I still love him.. The cougar is filthy rich with vehicles and all that.. what does he want from me????? I don't know if I should accept his friendship or move on with my life.. remember, we have a baby together
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reader, Star.Aqua +, writes (9 June 2012):
Star.Aqua is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe tells me that he'll be the best person out there because men think evil.. trust me the sex is so good with him... Maybe that's why the 46 year old won't leave him.. but since he moved in with her, i've lost most communication with him.. he text me jus to tell me that he'll drop of money for our daughter.. its just so hard to understand that he just throwed our years away and our daughter for an old woman.. they go to resorts together, expensive restaurants and she pays for everything
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reader, Kittykatt988  +, writes (7 June 2012):
Sounds like he wanted the cake and to eat the whole thing. He may genuinely like this women. But he cheated on her with you also so this proves he's dishonest. If you can maintain a friendship for your baby, then you should. But move on he has and you also deserve the luxuary of having someone too x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): what is it you want from him?you are ex's, ok so you broke up before and got back together but then you broke up again and have been ex's for over a year. in that time he has begun a new relationship that is now at the stage where he has moved in with his new partner. so that gives the impression that he has moved on.from how you write, you give the impression that since he has been with his new partner he has had sex with you at least three times.i guess you can either allow this situation to continue, cos you love him. or you can stop having sex with him cos you love him and you would appreciate it if he could demonstrate some sort of loyalty towards you, like not having another partner whom he is now living with.the offer of friendship kinda sounds cool, as you have a child together, but you broke up before the child was born and he had a new parnter a few months after the child was born. so my guess is he has moved on from you including any ideas of you and the child as his family.obviously some sort of financial help for his child would go a long way to showing that he is a true friend to you. not trying to have sex with you on a casual basis would also be helpful. if he knows you are in love with him there is a chance he is taking advantage of your feelings.i would advise you to move on. as far as the baby together goes, it sounds like you are raising it on your own, not together. does he look after the child at weekends? provide financial assistance? if the answer is no to both he is just the biological father and not a dad for the kid.your problems were that you felt he was cheating on you. now you know that when he has sex with you he is cheating on his new partner, and vice versa, if he had any feelings for you, he is cheating on you with her.go find yourself a decent honest partner. best wishes.
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reader, mpumie  +, writes (7 June 2012):
 I know how u feel that's why they say' love is blind' ur in love and only love that u feel for hi. There was a time I could see signs but I've ignored them cause I was only in love and its worse if he was the one who broke yo virginity. To be honest and I feel your its very hard when there's a child involved, but it doesn't that u have to be in this kind of a situation. If he was dating her secretly I would say atleast he respect yo feeling an maybe he is after her money maybe to use her an share it with u, but on this case they're dating openly. A child doesn't stop u to leave him. Man of These nowadays loves a women who have everything and I don't mean all of them. Even my man comes from an older women, they separated because she hided that she has an 20. Year old son. So if it was not that they would have been still together. So move on an forget about him cause ur only hating yourself an the baby.
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