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writes:I need help.I know what I plan to do is wrong, but it doesn't make me wanna stop.I met a girl, across the net on a game, long story short, both her and her partner share the account, he has become a good friend to me too.Although a good friend to him, she has opened up to me and I to her, and have been sharing our problems with each other.My (and her) biggest problem -lack of sex. She is in a relationship with hardly any sex at all. I was cheated on then dumped 4 months ago.After a long time talking, she wants to come the few hundred miles to visit me, we are friends, but both of us have a very strong sexual attraction to each other, and I know that I would like her to come here, for both our needs, desires.The reason I post this is that I need help. I know this makes me sound like a pig, thats why I ask for your help. Please.
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reader, BenQ +, writes (22 December 2007):
BenQ is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to everyone who gave a reply.
Firstly, I do know for a fact that they are 2 separate people, as I have seen and spoken to both of them, using cameras and mics and the likes.
Secondly, They are not married, they are just in a relationship that has lasted some time, and the spice is gone.
I'm gonna go with birdynumnums on this one. I do care about them both too much to be the catalyst, but I care about her enough to sit back and wait it out for a while, to see where things go.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 December 2007):
 Hmmm. He has become a good friend to me too. So I think I'll bonk his partner. No. Wait and see if they split up, but don't be the catalyst that drives the break-up. It's exactly the thing that has you writing to us, that little feeling in the back of your mind constantly. It's your conscience.
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reader, bemused +, writes (22 December 2007):
 This is kind of a odd situation. Is this girl married to the man in question. If she is not then is there a reason why she just does not end it. It might take a bit of the 'spice' out of your meeting up but it would be on the up and up at least. She is the one willing to come to you so I guess that factors in. I kind of agree with Uncle Phil that there must be people closer to home that you could date. It would seem from your post that you have been hurt and perhaps this situation requires nothing on your part except a physical relationship which is ok. Consider the possibity that it might turn into more. If she is not married to this guy I do think she should end it first..again an odd situation.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (22 December 2007):
 I think if she like's you and you like her then get her to travel the few hundred miles and meet up. However i feel that before she comes over it would be be best if she terminated her current relationship. Then if things work out for the pair of you you are not decieving anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): A few hundred miles? That's a long way to travel just for a quick bonk or three! Surely you could both find someone rather closer to home?
I remember at about your age I travelled 640 miles there and back over a weekend in the depths of winter on a Honda 50 for exactly the same purpose. Bad planning and sod's law ensured that it was the wrong week! Not a happy chappy!
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Ok 1stly if her and her partner share the account then how do you know that he isnt aware of what u are doing with his partner and secondly that you are actually talking to her and not him? Its easily done. Have you even met her yet? How do you know that there really are two people involved and that this one person is just tricking you? I know that sounds harsh but if you met them over the internet and you havent met them in person thats the harsh reality.
Secondly, i think that you are both very selfish people for wanting to have sex with what u said "a good friend"'s partner. You obviously aren't that good friends if ur planning to shag his partner. Sort yourself out. Find someone who lives near you who you can have a proper relationship with rather than ur internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): my advise is that if she feels the same way, then go for it. life is too short, and believe me i know by experience that it's better than living with regret.
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