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writes:I am 15 and pregnant. My boyfriend and I had sex with him and the condom fell off. So I got scared and took a pregnancy test. I turned out to be pregnant. I have not told my mom yet because the last time we talked she told me if I get pregnant I won't be living with her. I don't know what to do????
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): talk to your mom calmly and expect yelling and lecturing. don't argue, just listen to her until she's done and then try to work it out with her. talk to the father! I don't agree with bimbim saying that he get no say, because he is as much a part ofthis as you are minus thebump. decide with your mom AND the father whether or not you are going to keep it or have it adopted. DO NOT have an abortion because regardless of what anyone tells you, it is a living child who doesn't need to die because of a mistake
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 So you fell pregnant to prove if she throws you out? Theres always a Plan B.you didnt even consider. I take that when a girl decide to be sexual active, they shall be knowing of all sexual facts.go and tell yo mom that you are pregnant!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): You are going to have to tell her. Peferably soon rather then later.
Obviously, She is going to notice it if you do not tell her. Mothers are supposed to be forceful and put the fear of hell in your life if you do such things. Your her child, her daughter. The thought of you having one of your own is a terrifying thought to her since you are only 15 years old.
If all goes well you will tell her, you must. She will weclome you with open arms and do the very best she can for you. She is your mother and she loves you more then you think then to just push you out the door. Just know when due date comes past and as your baby gets older, your mother is going to critize you if you can not handle this child. She is going to say what you should be doing instead of what you think your dong. Remember: She had you, She knows.
I do hope your boyfriend stays with you in this and is there as much as any guy should be with a pregnant girlfriend. This is on his hands too. He better stay by your side, expecially when confronting your mother and further on in yours and the baby's life.
Xoxo, Best wishes. To you both.
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reader, JENNIFER love +, writes (10 December 2010):
I was 17 wen I got pregnant n I was scare but I told them n I was living w/uncle n aunt but they never said they were going to kick me out so do wat u think its best. You are the only one that knows ur mom no one else if u think keep it to ur self wen it shows n try not to act pregnant. In the mid time start planing start saving money n don't stop going to school. Hopefully ur boyfriend stays with u and works n saves money. Remember now u got more hormones so don't be on him on everuthing only responsibilitys n always ask him about what he thinks or wants because u can't force someone to do wat u want n try not to get mad at every lil thing because you will just push. Him away I use to be like I don't need u and wen he didn't saw his baby being born that hurt me specially being my first baby. u never know wat u have in to u lose it be patience boys are always slower. From my experience its better to have ur baby clothes by the real dad then some one that will pretend to care but in reality not really cuz its not his own. Wish u the best write if anything=). Good luck n god be with u he is love hopefully u don't get hurt but its also part of life for some of us. Every girl deserves to be happy.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (10 December 2010):
 You must tell your mother right away. Yes she'll feel ashamed and upset and sad and angry all at once, but right away is better than not saying anything and your mother wondering why you're increasing in weight! You can't hide pregnancy. Your mom will need some space to think things through but I guarantee you that she will be there to help you with your baby. Hopefully your boyfriend will, too!
All the best.....
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Tell your mom. You did something bad, now face the consequences, don't run and hide. You know you screwed up, but hiding it from your mom wont do no good, she'll notice you're pregnant in a few months time....
So talk to her and make your decision about what to do next together with her! If you do get kicked out she's still bound by law to take care of you as you are underaged. So that means she'd have to provide a new place for you to live, feed you and give you money. Costly business. Do you have any child protection services? Contact them if your mom actually does throw you out, you should be able to get help from them or any other social service in your country. At least help on ideas of what to do next.
Plus, your boyfriend is just as responsible as you are, and if you do give birth to this child he needs to provide for the child as well. Make sure he doesn't leave the country and leave you hanging!
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 You have to tell her, this is not something you can hide.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 You have to talk to your mother. I am not going to say that all mothers will simply open their arms and all will be hunky dory ... BUT most mothers make threats, their young daughters falling pregnant is a nightmare many of us fear .... mothers know that life is not like a game of monopoly, there is no equivalent get out of jail free card.
You basically have three choices, and whatever choice you make you will have to live with for the rest of your life, and because you are so young your choices could very well affect your mother for the rest of HER life ...
You need to talk to your mother because you are a minor. Your boyfriend has absolutely NO say in what you and your mother discuss, and decide. Your options are: to have the baby to care for and support for the rest of your life, to give the baby up for adoption or to have an abortion. You need your mother, and her reaction and help, regardless what choice you make so the sooner you talk with her the sooner plans can be made.
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reader, crookshanks +, writes (9 December 2010):
right now i can relate, the SAME thing happened to meeh. I'm fifteen-pregnant, i told my mom she was the 1st person i told besides the father have you told ur boyfriend??
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