Its going on 2 years, we've never met and he won't respond to my questions of "what are we"

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So I've been in this Long-distance "relationship" for more than over 1 yr., almost 2. I'm 21 and he's 26, we met on an app and have been talking ever since. Yes we have seen each other so there's no cat fishing here. He lives more up north and I live way down south. We have been planning when to meet up and everything, but it hasn't happened yet cause he tells me something has "come up" or he just "can't". For a good while I believed and tolerated this but now whenever he brings anything up about seeing me, I don't care anymore and I don't want to hear anything about it. We are both going to college, he has encouraged me to keep going and to not give up on my goals. He has been very supportive and been there for me through good/bad moments, which is why I feel an attraction for him that seems very real. Sometimes I feel like I have fallen for him, but then I start to think the reality of him probably dating someone else behind my back. Yes we have done the dirty on the phone/Facetime to keep up with what we are missing out on. I don't want to give up on this thing that we have. He says that I'm the only one he's interested in. But lately we have been distant, he has stopped messaging and calling. We used to be able to talk and text for a good while. Now it's just every now and then, so when we talk it ends in some petty argument that I end up apologizing for each and every fight. The other day he was so annoyed that I asked about what am I to him and he ignored it and asked where all this is coming from and why I was asking all this now? I never got a response or any clarification and that's usually what he does, is just avoid the question and move onto another subject. I want to stay, but I feel that this might be going on too long for me to keep myself from seeing anyone else and just being loyal to him. I know that as long as he not said that we are some type of couple, then I can do whatever I want but I'm not like that. I trust him a lot and do feel a great admiration and care for him. I do think I might be in love but I could be wrong. He said he was finding a ticket to stop by where I'm at. I just don't buy it but I want to believe him soo bad. He means a lot to me and I don't want to lose him either. Am I being naive about us? Is it right for me to keep this loyalty to him and not give myself a chance where I'm living in? I'm not 100% on what to do anymore.

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