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writes:I met this guy on a dating site. He texts me often and we decided to meet in real life. A few days after we've both returned to our various countries he starts to ignore me. We had so much fun times together. He's active on facebook and Whatsapp but won't talk to me like he used to unless I say hello. When I do he takes time to answer and full of excuses. I asked him if he's changed his mind about our relationship and he says "no sweetheart, don't panic" with love emoji but his actions are the same. I'm confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for taking the time to answer my questions. It was helpful
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 May 2015):
 Don't continue to waste your time and emotional equity on anyone that is that indecisive and undecided on his position on anything. Forget him and look for a new guy that is more assertive and commited. Losers are easily lost in the rear view mirror. Keep a positve attitude and start over.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 May 2015):
 As already suggested by other respondents ( and it's a very good advice because t's true in any circumstance of life, not just love matters ) always pay attention to what people DO , not what they say.
Talk is cheap and cost no effort, other than adding a couple of cute emojis . If he wants to string you along , i.e. not bother much with you BUT telling you what you want to hear to keep you hooked on him , and at his disposal just in case, for the next time he is in your area ) of course he would say sweet things and that you've got nothing to worry , right ? He would not come up and say " Actually , my dear, I don't give a s..t about you, I just need to keep you sweet in case I need to use you " - well, you would not carry on this " relationship " for my own selfish convenience - because he logically imagins that you may be upset about it and dump him. Which right now is not convenient for him YET. So he will say what he needs to say ,.... and let it be denied by his actions ad omisssions.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 May 2015):
 I'm betting that what happened was he THOUGHT you were THE ONE... then he met you and realized you are lovely but NOT his ONE...
he does not want to lose you totally as it's an ego stroke that you contact him and want him but he's NOT going to put in an effort to keep you as you will never be the one he ends up with.
I would suggest you let it go... do not contact him, do not worry about him, do not consider yourself "taken" and keep seeking out new friends and potential partners.
DO not ASK him if he's changed his mind. He has but NO one will tell you that... just know it in your heart and move on....
do not listen to his words or pictures... listen to his actions... if he does not try to contact you or want to come see you or pay for you to come see him, he's not interested. Let it GO
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (22 May 2015):
 Maybe he has another girl in his own country? He sounds like he is NOT really serious.
Neither of you have "invested" a lot in this, so why not let him go and find someone closer by who WANT to talk to you, and want to be around you and with you?
Using "love emoji " doesn't mean he LOVES you.
LOOK at his actions, are those the actions of someone who cares? No, it's not. It's the actions of someone who is busy with other things, but likes an ego stroke and the attentions of a woman.
Let him go...
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