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*rBrightside90
writes:Hey guys,Lets start my story with a brief history of my problem; My girlfriend cheated on me about two months ago, i was devestated, but she claimed it was a big mistake (she made out with somebody at a party.) Anyway she is never in touch with that guy anymore.But it still haunts me, I am very insecure. I always try to do my best when she has problems. But she never actually makes me feel special, Though she told me that besides her mother, i am the most important person in her life, that somewhat touched me.But I am still very insecure, and very jealouse when somebody messages her on myspace, or tries to flirt with her.Can anyone help me out here?thanks guys !
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reader, MrBrightside90 +, writes (19 March 2009):
MrBrightside90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree jessica, I cant controle her, if she decides to cheat on me, she will no matter what. But i think she knows what she will lose.
I do love her, and I am very willing to giver her another shot.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (19 March 2009):
 One thing I have found in life is that I had to learn that I cannot control what someone else will do to me. And if someone is going to cheat on me, then that is their decision, not mine, and in the grand scheme of life, it's not the worst thing.
You have to decide how this relationship is making you feel. If you are constantly paranoid and feel like you're not enough for her, then this probably isn't the best relationship to be in. If you can never trust her again, then it might be wise to breakup. A relationship without trust is just painful for both parties.
In the end, you just have to know that you are a good person, and you are living your life in a good way. You cannot control her when she is away from you, so why work yourself up so much? If she does it again, then you know she was lying about being sorry, and you can breakup with her. Or you can do it now and find a fresh start.
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reader, just her_x  +, writes (19 March 2009):
well,
i know you will feel very insecure withthis problem i had the same problem with my boyfriend a year ago, he made out with a girl at a night club but he was drunk,
i told him it was over and even if he was drunk he should have rem,embered he had a girlfriend.
he kept ringing me so i amswered and e said he wanted me back and he was so sorry and it was a big mistake and he woldnt have any contact with her what so ever. so i said ok then one moe chance but if you blow this chance its over for good and he was oo happy and we are till together till this day so mabye you should try that, jut say that it's your last chance dont blow it.
hope it goes well for you xxx
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reader, just her_x +, writes (19 March 2009):
well,
i know you will feel very insecure withthis problem i had the same problem with my boyfriend a year ago, he made out with a girl at a night club but he was drunk,
i told him it was over and even if he was drunk he should have rem,embered he had a girlfriend.
he kept ringing me so i amswered and e said he wanted me back and he was so sorry and it was a big mistake and he woldnt have any contact with her what so ever. so i said ok then one moe chance but if you blow this chance its over for good and he was oo happy and we are till together till this day so mabye you should try that, jut say this is your last chance dont blow it.
hope it goes well for you xxx
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reader, fwddgs +, writes (19 March 2009):
She said it herself, it was a huge mistake that she made (by the sounds of it while drunk) and has done everything she can to rectify. I know it's hard to take this in but you have to accept that it's not your fault, as she said, you're the most important person in her life, she wouldn't want to do anything that would hurt you. Just let her know you're feeling very insecure and that you need her help to get through this. She'll be there for you.
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