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writes:Hey everyone, So my boyfriend and I have been having some major issues. we've been fighting a lot! The major thing is we never do anything. this is our routine every day during the week. He works 11pm -7am and I work 11:30am-5:30pm. he gets off work comes home and goes to sleep i get up go to work and then i get off from work i come home and we watch movies. on weekends its the same thing. some weekends he goes and hangouts with brother and friends. so your probably wondering what the problem is.. The problem is that he wont do anything with me, we have been together a year and have only been to the movies twice. the only thing we do is go out to eat other then that we don't do anything. but yet he goes to movies with his brother and mom. he goes on road trips with his friends,brother and mom. but wont with me. he always says he don't have the money. Our relationship to me is getting very boring and old i love him to death and at the point i just wanna find someone who wants to more stuff. It bothers me that we do nothing. like for during the holidays everyone is going to Christmas lights or going ice skating or doing something. Except for my boyfriend and I. he says its because i never ask to do anything. when usually i'm always the one who makes suggestions and most of the time he doesn't wanna do what I want. Should i just end the relationship since its not fixable.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (22 December 2013):
He has it priorities and helping your relationship to grow is not one of his. You have already talked to him about it and he doesn't seem to think it's important.
There are plenty of affordable things you could do together, he's just not interested.
So you have two options: accept it and stop getting upset at him, or leave him because you're not compatible.
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reader, llifton +, writes (22 December 2013):
 I would be bored as hell, too. I don't blame you. Maybe just try to express it one more time, that you really need to get out more and do things with him for the relationship to work. And then ask him one or two more times to do something with you. Give him this last chance. And if nothing changes, I'd leave. I couldn't stay in a boring relationship like that. Relationships take effort. He's taking you for granted.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 December 2013):
 It would bother me too. He looks at family as important people he can't say no to but he takes you for granted. First figure out when he's going to switch it to a day time schedule. If it's not happening then tell him you think about ending it, then do it.
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