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male
age
30-35,
*razysecret
writes:My girlfriend and I were studying together in an empty classroom when she decided she was cold and wanted to do jumping jacks to warm up but said it would be too embarrassing. I said: it's not embarrassing and nobody is here but me so who cares. I also suggested she do squats as they may feel less awkward for her.Anyway, I see that she decides to do jumping jacks instead of squats so I innocuously roll my eyes (nothing too serious). I was trying to be playful but that made her think I was looking down on her and she runs up to me yelling "what's with that bitch face" and begins to hit me (like slaps but with a clenched fist). Whilsts delivering her final hit, her watch hits my finger and I yell out: Oww! That hurt! I explain how it wasn't a bitch face and that it was just a joke. She says I was looking down at her but I explained how I was not as I was the one to tell her that she shouldn't feel awkward as it is just her and I in the room.Long story short, she later begins to cry because I wasn't giving her any affection and being cold towards her. I told her because I'm mad that you HIT me and for wrong reasons no less. I try to explain to her that she misinterpreted the reason behind my facial expression due to her inference being colored by her self-consciousness. Anyway, we waste time arguing and now I'm wondering if this relationship is working as she always causes drama like this.I love her but she always overreacts to everything and gets mad over nothing. I don't know what to do.Is this just the person she will always be?What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 January 2016):
 It sounds like she is insecure. You rolling your eyes hit a nerve with her and she lashed out. She sounds over dramatic yes but maybe she has issues in other parts of her life and she lashed out at you. Either way it is not acceptable for her to hit you. You need to be straight with her and tell her that this is a deal breaker. She needs to apologize for her behavior and then hopefully you can both move from this.
She needs to be told that there is more to a relationship than affection. Off course you are going to be mad, she was violent to you. I think you both need to talk about it and tell her if it happens again then you are finished. Explain to her how much her behavior is hurting you, but also tell her you are there for her if she needs to talk about anything.
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reader, ellsie96  +, writes (25 January 2016):
 Hmm she doesn't sound too good a partner for you.
She's definitely needy and immature, hitting you because you rolled your eyes? That's what I used to do to my brothers when I was 8.
And the fact that she started crying when you got angry also shows her attempts to manipulate you.
Basically, yes, this is who she is.
She may grow up with time, but how long is that going to take? And she needs life experiences to make her realise her behaviour isn't exactly acceptable e.g. a boyfriend breaking up with her because she hit him.
I'd get out of the relationship FOR NOW. You never know, later down the line she may have grown up enough to know how to treat you better, but right now she definitely does not.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 January 2016):
 Yes, people do not change.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (25 January 2016):
 She seems very needy and dramatic, and THAT is not something that is likely to change.
You were in that classroom to study not for you to giver her affections, I mean seriously? How old is she?
And while you did your "playfully" rolled your eyes she might have meant to "playfully" hit you. Except yours is non-physical hers was, and personally, again.. it's about the dramatic effect for her. Some girls think it's OK for them to hit/slap/punch a guy but he can't hit her. In my book it's just not OK for ANYONE (regardless of gender) to hit.
But in short, yes I think this is WHO she is. An bit immature, maybe insecure, definitely needy and over the top drama-llama. And let's not forget... manipulative.. starting the waterworks to get you to feel bad for doing/saying what you did.
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