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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I split up last October because he announced he doesn't want a girlfriend. When we split it was completely out of the blue. He has his own business which he is struggling with and I thinks it's impacting his self esteem / self worth. I don't think it helps that I have a very well paid job. This doesn't matter to me, it's him I want, to me the money means nothing. We have stayed very close friends since, and talk on the phone everyday. We still go to the cinema and days out, talk to each other in baby language and sweet nicknames. Neither of us have seen or been looking for anyone else in the meantime. I am hoping and waiting that things will change and we will get back together. He is the kindest, sweetest person I have ever met, and he has many many friends both male and female. I've recently started getting really jealous about any contact he has with any of his female friends and feel vulnerable, and so scared that I am going to lose him. I really really want to be with this man for the rest of my life as I love him to bits and care about him so so much. He makes me feel loved and cherished and he always has time for me. He thinks i'm too good for him. How can I convince him of my love? He keeps saying I look at him through rose tinted spectacles. I just love him. end of. How can I make him believe in himself so that he can believe in me?
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reader, macmichael +, writes (10 May 2008):
Wow i dont think your boyfriend has a low self esteem because no one who runs a business or who can get a woman has that lower self esteem.I think that confident business men and other attractive men will always have a problem with pride,and ego thats just the price of dating these men who are in high demand, If you just leave him be he might come back but if you keep chasing him it will tell him that he can have you anytime so will look for someone else and if he doesnt find anyone then come back !
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reader, Jen86 +, writes (6 May 2008):
He might feel like a hindrance because of his business and u earning so much. He probably thinks in that old fashioned way that men do that he should be bringing home the money while ur the house wife. NUTS TO THAT! Tell him its not the 18th century and theres nothing wrong with u earning more money than he is. Just tel him how much u love him and wat ur willing to go thru just to be with him. Be warned tho he may cry (my mans identical in this way)
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