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writes:Just wanted to get a guy's perspective on this: I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we seemed to get along, joke, talk about sports (yes I like sports), and he's been affectionate with me, however we haven't had sex. He's been dropping hints here and there that we should have sex, I've even slept over at his place, however I didn't give in yet. He's complained that its frustrating him.Lately he's been distancing himself, not texting or emailing me, his excuses are he's busy with work, friends, family, etc. Is it because I haven't put out that he's doing this?
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Yes, i'd say he is pissed off. Maybe he feels his manhood is woonded. You should not give in though, if that's how you feel, no matter what the cost is. I give this advice:always stick to your values, ethics and beliefs! Best wishes.
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reader, Leodjoneluv +, writes (3 February 2011):
 well you dont want a man who only wants you for sex but that is a big part of a relationship. You have to talk to him and explain to him why you do not want to have sex and why it is important to you to practice abstence. He may feel that is him or you may want to be with some one else. talk and communicate your feelings and actions to him. he will not know unless you tell him
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reader, Liebes Kummer  +, writes (3 February 2011):
For most guys, the motto is clear; no sex, no relationship.
I certainly played by that rule when i was still single.
But i mean, if you don't feel like having sex with this guy, then don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Such guy is no type to be reckon with,there are lots of them out there ability to say NO from girls will make them realise that not all girls are chip whores. He doesn't deserve your type of person let him go to HELL
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reader, df30 +, writes (3 February 2011):
Guys perspective-Yes, he wants sex. No, he doesn't want to put the time in to getting to know you. He's been with you for two months and it's going nowhere, so he's not going to push the issue anymore of spending time with you if he's getting no reward.When a man meets someone he feels he can love, then he will put sex as a lesser priority and put you first. Find a guy who isn't about the sex.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Yes, he's doing this because you have said no to sex. This guy isn't interested in a relationship with you. Even if you were to have sex with him he's already shown by his actions that sex is all he wants.
I dated a guy once and he was so affectionate with me, we had a lot of laughs, talked for hours etc but as soon as I told him that I wouldn't sleep with him before getting to know him better (meaning a few months) he stopped calling as often and started making excuses as to why he couldn't see me. He claimed nothing was up but I knew why he'd changed his tune. So I dropped him...best decision I ever made :)
Best thing for you to do is to let it go, stop contact with him and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 February 2011):
Here's a guy's perspective - this guy is only really interested in the sex. You shouldn't feel pressurized to have sex. And if he was worth the bother, I think he would make more effort, and not just pull away or stop texting.
If you'd been going out for a while longer, then I'd say that he'd have reason to start being frustrated. But to be pulling away after two months because of the lack of sex, I'd say you're better off without him.
Best to move on.
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