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writes:I'm an autistic male and find it hard to communicate with people and make friends and it's hard for me to write an email to someone, as it comes out as jumbled crap, as I've so many words in my head and when I write it out it comes out much worse as my brain can't fully function properly.I made friends with a female, who has just started working at the factory where I live, she's lovely, kind and a little shy, and chances to talk are limited, due to it being in a busy work environment.We became friends on social media and I haven't messaged her as of yet. And I need help with writing out an email out to her and I'd appreciate the help with it as I'm struggling to conjour up a proper sentence together and this is my ultimate downfall.I like her a lot and she tries and chats to me even when she's busy. I'm trying to tell her how I feel and if I don't tell her I'll regret it.Many thanks
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reader, Blanford +, writes (30 June 2016):
Hi there. It’s tough being autistic. My son has similar issues so I thought I would see if I could help you with your email.
It is probably better if you don’t tell her too much about liking her in this message. It will be much easier for you to tell her when you meet. So here it is:
Hi …….
I hope you are enjoying working here? It is so busy it’s difficult to chat and I don’t want to keep interrupting you. So I was wondering if you might like to meet away from work sometime soon. Perhaps we could go for a drink or coffee? It would be great to have a chance to get to know you. What do you think?
..........your name goes here
*******
You could add a smiley face to make your email less formal, but you don’t have to. I hope this helps. Without you having to spell it out for her I think she will get that you like her. Otherwise why would you be writing to her!
Good luck, Blanford
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2016): Thank you for your advice on this, it's much appreciated and eases my worries. When you like someone it's difficult to express how you feel about them and using the right words.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (18 June 2016):
 Totally agree with the others, too early to be laying your feelings on the line. A bit of advice, if it were me, a declaration of the sorts would probably freak me out a bit. Keep it simple. If you are not one for communication via FB messaging then let her know so it takes a bit of pressure of you by not having to keep up with all the to and fro. Maybe something along the lines of " Hi, *insert name*, not really one for FB messaging, much prefer to chat to you in person how about we meet up for a coffee on *insert date*. Good luck and try not over think things just be yourself.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (18 June 2016):
 I agree with AuntyBimBim. You're putting the cart before the horse. Right now, you're in the infatuation stage, and before you start gushing about your feelings for her TO her, you need to ask her out! Get to KNOW her. Right now, all the effort in your part is a one-sided affair. Even if she likes you like you like her, what's there to say and do after you tell her, and there will be an awkward "What, then?" after your declaration.
All of your turmoil is inside you. Venting out and giving her the full spectrum of however long you've been interested in her is like trying to pick up a passenger in an automobile while the automobile is still going 100kph. You'll run her over!
Slowwww down. Get to know her better one on one. Ask her out. Cultivate getting to know her. Let her get to know you. Also, don't mistake putting ALL of your effort on YOUR OWN feelings of her. Find out what she likes. Listen to her. Plan something, conversations, maybe dates, on passions SHE has for things. If she likes a certain music artist, maybe a concert. Interest in an upcoming movie? Easy one! Is she a wine taster? Even easier! Find out what she likes, ask her out on a lighthearted date to something you know she really likes, and you'll have a blast!
NO EMAILS about how much you like her. That's like forcing her to stare at the sun when all you're wanting is to shine a light on the two of you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (18 June 2016):
 Hold off on declarations of feelings for the time being, if you are friends on social media you could PM her something along the lines off "its hard to talk at work, I'd like to get to know you better, would you like to catch up for coffee or a movie sometime soon"
If she says yes, Yayyyy, go for the coffee or movie, and then set another date, baby steps to start and then once you are both comfortable with each other you can tell her that you like her a lot.
Good luck!
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