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writes:For the last few years i've felt incredibly numb and emotionaless, i'm not depressed, i'm genuinly a happy person, but I feel like I dont really have any emotions when it comes to major things in my life.I started feeling like this when the person I was most closest to passed away, my nanna who brought me up from a baby, after a long struggling 6 months or so, me and my mum were there when she passed away. I really struggled with this and felt incredibly sad for a long time.Then I felt happy again when I found out I was expecting my first child with my boyfriend of 6 years, I was over the moon and felt more myself again. I found out my child has a rare skin condition and i was gutted.A year later due to my boyfriend not being able to control his temper around the baby and would punch the doors etc if the baby cried too much, I kicked him out and became a single mum. I was devastated as I really loved him, but needed to do right by my son.Not long after that, I started dating a guy id known for 8 years we were good friends, he treated me like a princess, he'd loved me for years and treated me better than anyone ever had, he would quite literally do ANYTHING for me, I asked him before we got together if he was flirting with anyone else, he told me he wasnt flirting with anyone else then he moved in and I saw texts to girls on her phone, dirty texts (all before we got together) but it upset me that he'd lied, but I forgave him as he said he didnt want to tell me as i wouldnt go out with him and everything was going good I quickly fell pregnant due to contraception failing. I had a beautiful healthy little girl, yet I feel incredibly numb... I feel like I dont appreciate her because I feel so emotionless, im a great Mum and I do everything for my children, it's not depression, as I said im genuinely happy.. so why do I feel so numb?I am so lucky to have everything that I have in life, i know that, but things that would normally of really upset me, i feel so emotionless towards it.. what can I do? I dont feel myself anymore.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 They are right, being depressed is being numb. I have suffered from it before. I wasn't crying my eyes out or elated or anything really, I was just... There. I realized I was depressed when my husband told me so. I didn't want to do anything, I felt lazy but didn't care to do anything about it. I just didn't care about anything really. Never did cry. So I think you just aren't really sure what depression is. See a therpist or psychologist to help you through this.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (31 August 2012):
 If you've had your second baby in the last year or two, your hormones could still not be quite right. It's quite common to feel different for this and no other reason.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (30 August 2012):
 Sorry darlin', but I think you ARE depressed. I'm the same. It is not incurable.
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reader, oaksi567 +, writes (30 August 2012):
Hi, don't worry, I know exactly how you feel. A couple of year ago I suffered from a similar experience, it made me feel useless, negative and isolate from everyone. Try to feel positive and compliment yourself, maybe take up a hobby, talking helps, many of my friends helped me through. Reassurances can help by family members. If you can conquer depression and anxiety, it will make you mentally stronger and nothing will phase you. So good luck and you are young, try to go out and enjoy life. Hope this helps
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 August 2012):
 actually I think you are depressed. ..
NUMB is depressed honey...
two babies in a few years.. see the doctor about some medication to help balance you out and see if it improves.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 August 2012):
 I think you're confusing what depression is. Depression can take lots of forms, and only one of them is being sad all the time. Sometimes it can manifest in the way you're expressing it - numbness.
It sounds like you've had a lot of rough spots in your lifetime, and you sound like a smart, strong woman and a good mother. Good for you!
It sounds like you would get some real value in counseling. Counseling isn't just for people who are mentally ill or completely crazy. It is for normal, everyday people who have lived in reality and could benefit from a non-partial person to listen. And sometimes you have to shop around for the right therapist - it's like every other relationship... sometimes you're compatible and sometimes you're not - so don't think counseling isn't right for you if the first person you meet doesn't do anything for you. It just might not be the right person.
Best of luck!
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