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writes:Please everybody I really just want answeres from MEN. Please, all men out there reply to this.I am happilly married and i know a guy who is also happily married, I have never cheated on my husband but I want to cheat now. I want to have hot sex with this guy. I am pretty sure he wants too. So how can I let him know I want to sleep with him without being too forwarded about it?I want him to make the first move, so what can I do for his guy to make the first move and then we can have some hot sex. I just want to sleep with him once then if he wants more I think I will be ok. I am also ok if he would want me just for sex. I may want to have a sex partner but not a single guy. I want a married man. So please guys, how can I let him him that I am crazy to be in bed with him? It needs to be in a discret way. I need to make him feel secure that if he iniciates something I will say yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): My advise, you are gay in a gay marriage... what makes you think that it would ever be OK. Be straight up! With everyone involved. if your not happy in your own relationship then sort that out first but cheating is cheating whatever the relationship and if you had any feelings for your present partner then at least do them the decency of not lying to them.Dont try to justify this .Dont try to make someone else make the first move that just shows how much of a coward you are. You are only looking for a scapegoat for when it eventually goes wrong and you get caught out and you will justify your actions by saying 'it wasn't my fault, he chased me.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (7 November 2009):
 "I" think the outcome of this is going to be bad regardless of what the poster has between their legs.
"I" think deception is gender blind.
"I" would advise some therapy
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): baby duck, you spotted the correct gender of the poster. Now why didn't the other GOOD UNCLES SPOT THE OBVIOUS. see, do not only ask for advice from one gender. the other gender (in this one, the females) were screaming to point out the gender. Thanks Babyduck. You got some BALLS, girl.
Fake post, gals?????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): my dear it is good to express your self when ever the need arises. that's the only way you can find complete happiness. are you really sure that's what you want? well if yes then go after your heart.never the less, always remember that you are married to a man that loves you so much i guess. don't do anything to destroy your happy marriage. always remember that there are two kinds of pain in life. a pain of being diciplined, and a pain of regret.its your choice to make a decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): You want this guy to make the first move....well if he's as into you as you seem to think why do you have to do anything at all? If he wants to cheat he will let you know. Maybe he just likes the fact that you flirt and seem into him (ego stroke) - that might be ALL he wants from you...given he is 'happily married'.
Maybe you're entirely wrong? I hope so!
Why don't you make your move and see - please let us all know if he rejects you, it would be so nice to hear about someone with morals and an actual 'happy marriage'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): Have you considered a foursome, or a little wife-swapping?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): You are playing with serious fire here... You want a simple f***-buddy, where you can come and go as you please and bang each other's brains out descretly when you feel the urge. The reality is that this relationship is going to get seriously out of hand, and you're going to become intoxicated and start to do really stupid things and get caught. Both marraiges could be ruined, or one of you could realize that you don't want to get divorced and abandon the other- only to spend years in counciling and dealing with a spouse who is seriously hurt.I work with a guy who got caught up with a (very atttractive) young girl in our office- this is exactly what happended- she's now divorced (her family is not happy with her), and he's trying to rebuild his marriage- his wife is a WONDERFUL person, and she's trying to rebuild, but it's not been pleasent and I don't blame her.Be very careful, and consider the worse case senario... you'll likely get it...
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reader, Gurner69  +, writes (7 November 2009):
Your first move should be to leave your husband by telling him face to face then after thats settled do what you will. Walk past him in a short skirt and whisper in his ear that your not wearing any panties but for gods sake leave your husband first just out of respect for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I have to say I'm with CaringGuy -- I don't really understand what's going on here.
I would imagine that seducing this guy would be very much like any other. You flirt, say suggestive things, "accidentally" show too much cleavage ... He'll get the hint. If he's not interested in cheating, he'll (1) ignore you, (2) start to avoid you, or (3) shut you down, hard. Sounds like risky business to me, but then I don't personally know anyone who's in the situation.
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reader, called Steve +, writes (6 November 2009):
 Looking through your question I couldn't help noticing just how many times you say "I" - 12 times to be precise, in 8 sentences... what about what your spouse thinks or the other guy for that matter... what about his partner/spouse. What about the families that could be wrecked... you sound to me like a spoonful of humility and responsibility need to be taken.Are you so selfish as to ruin someone else's life(s) for what YOU want or desire - it sounds to me like you dont care about anyone else apart from yourself. Have you stopped for one moment to think of the conetations of your actions and conclusions of what may happen?As for you being happily married, you're having a laugh aren't you? Tell your husband of your intentions and I suspect he wont feel as happily married as you do any longer.The feeling of a childish spoilt brat immediately spring to mind - I hope I'm wrong!Please reconsider your very destructive intentions. If you try to think of all the hurt and pain it may cause to your respective families it may just prevent you from making the biggest mistake in your life...Steve
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 November 2009):
I'm a man, and I'm going to be honest. If you are happily married, why are you considering this? Because first of all, this other guy is married and may not be interested, and worse still, if your husband finds out, then you're happy marriage will be destroyed and you'll be left with nothing.
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