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writes:ok this is a really embarrasin thing to ask but here goes...all my friends are 13-14 year olds but talking about already have sex, im still a virgin and when im with my friends it feels like something i should be ashamed of i dont know what to do please help me... x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): To be honest, i bet most of them are lying dear.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (7 November 2009):
 Please save yourself for someone (man) who who truly loves you, and whom you can love and trust. Do not become just another girl that others talk about. You are worth more than being a cheap sex object. You will have plenty of more meaningful sex in a few more years, hopefully with a loving husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): kids at that age talk about having sex long before they actually do- it's an attempt to act mature, and mostly alot of story telling. You'll know when the time (and guy) is right- don't give away your virginity simply to get rid of it- that you will regret. I lost my virginity in college and thankful that I did, it was the right girl, in a quite relaxed setting and we had plenty of time to enjoy the process!
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reader, Gurner69 +, writes (7 November 2009):
Keep being a virgin and ignore your friends. Your obviosly not ready and will probably be ashamed or worried if you go to soon. You will know when your ready and at 13 for sure you are not. enjoy kissing and fooling around but wait till 17 to go all the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I remember feeling this way ( a bit older) when the girls at school were discussing losing their virginity. Their bravado made it seem so appealing. Most people try to make the things they do sound wonderful so everyone around them will envy them and think they are 'cool.' (Yes i am dating myself with that word) However just remember that they can NEVER regain what you have and many amny girls come on this site withing they had waited. Read some of the stories on here in the archives and you will probably be glad for your virginity. 13 is no where near old enough to handle the emotional baggage that comes with early sexual behaviors. Best of luck! mal
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 November 2009):
Well don't feel ashamed. In Britain, it's illegal for anyone to have sex under the age of 16. So well done for not being a criminal for a start.
Next, these girls are either lying, or they are very confused and unhappy if they are having to have sex at their age.
Don't feel ashamed at all, keep your head held high because you've done nothing wrong at all. Take your time, and when you're ready in your life, you'll meet a great guy and everything will happen naturally. Relax and focus on yourself and school for now.
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reader, RosesAreRed86 +, writes (6 November 2009):
I have answered a question very similar to this that another girl your age posted. I'm pasting the link. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-cousin-makes-fun-of-me-because-im.htmlYou have nothing to be ashamed of at all. Frankly if they're 13-14 and HAVE had sex, they are the ones who should be ashamed. I mean, I think nowadays kids are having sex, way, way, way, way, way, way, way, way, too young. At the rate things are going it seems like in 20 years we're going to have 9 year olds asking this same question.
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