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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My guy likes to try and make me jealous by talking about how hot other women are and flirting with women sometimes. I never give him the satisfaction of letting him know it bothers me after all what's good for the goose is good for the gander. But I don't want to flirt with other men so much that it's obvious. Can someone help me with subtle but effective ways to make him jealous without being childish?
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reader, sexi  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Hi
Why dont you try speaking to him. My bf does that but to an extent. If i tell him that i dont like what he is saying then he stops. Let just say that my bf knows when enough is enough b/c i made him aware of it. Speak to you r bf and see what happens.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Get someone to send you some flirty messages on your phone and leave it around and he will snoop on your phone for sure.
That would do the job but beware that you may get more than you bargained for.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 He's really pushing your buttons, and knows that it gets to you. Either he thinks it's funny, or he's being mean; could be a bit of both.
Anyway, as Rhythm and Dazzerg both said, you should confront him on it. Then having done that, and he tries to wind you up again, completely ignore the comment and him. Stare past his ear into space with a blank look on your face. Do not react, do not say anything. Meet the comment with cold dead nothingness. Then just walk away, being very calm.
If he flirts with women in front of you, remove yourself from the scene. Just leave, and take yourself home. Or if you feel up to it, take yourself to the other side of the room you're in and find a very handsome man and just ask him for the time or something really innocuous. Don't flirt if you're not comfortable doing it. What you want to do is completely ignore him when he's behaving in this way, after you've told him how much it bothers you.
Good luck!
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I dont think you should even bother trying to mke him jelous. Hes sounds like a waster and he doesnt care about you if hes trying to make you jealous about other girls. What is that going to do to your confidence? Knock it down. Just ditch the loser. You can do much better.
Dont get into his little mind games and be just as bad as him, turn around to him randomly one day when he tells you how hot a girl is and just dump him. Say bye bye and walk away. You never know he might come back to you and realise what he did was wrong and wont do it again, but if he doesnt change...then you havent lost anything.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Blues has it about right...I really cant stand it when people play games with me to be honest and its very likely it would just annoy me and push me away. You need to confront him about it and tell him to change his ways. I think a certain amount of looking is understandable under the 'look dont touch' rule but him being so blatent is disrespecting you and you need to bring him into line. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I think instead of playing this game which is not going to get you what you want you might try a frank discussion with your boyfriend, you teach people how to treat you and if he is being disrespectful by doing this (which I think he is) then you need to call him out on it sooner than later...Here is a good article about how to deal...Good Luck!
http://www.enotalone.com/article/2265.html
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