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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I found out my girl of 2 years was talking sexual to guys from dating sites. It caused us to break up and she begged me to go back to her. She admitted it was stupid and said it was not for sexual reasons, but teasing and flirting with them just for a laugh.I walked in yesterday and she was there on the computer with a chat type application thing. It was a different type of thing then I saw last time. It look like something geared towards fun flirting and did not look like it was a free site.I asked her what it was and got absolutely no sense from her. Basically, her friend had asked her to talk to someone who she thought was her husband so she could find out if he was trying to make dates behind her back. I asked her which friend. She answered, it doesnt matter because I dont know her. She then told me to leave because I didnt trust her. Her phone is now switched off. What is going on? If I am not good enough for her, or meeting her expectation, then why didnt she just let it go when we broke up?
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reader, Bill Maher  +, writes (1 March 2013):
Find a new girl that deserves you.
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reader, llifton +, writes (1 March 2013):
 she's clearly lying and cheating. let her keep her phone off and ignore you. you don't need this girl. she's not worth it.
one thing i can't stand about cheaters? they make YOU feel like you're the one at fault. you catch her cheating and ask her questions (and rightfully so), and she turns it around on you like she's innocent, and makes you feel like you're violating HER trust. excuse my language, but fuck that. cheaters are manipulate and make you feel like you're crazy.
the truth of the matter is that you did nothing wrong and she's trying to make you feel like you're to blame and she's innocent. as i said before - leave this girl. she probably only took you back because she's desperate for attention. you're much better off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): It wont be about not being good enough. It does not always mean you are not playing your part. Some people, both male and female will screw you over no matter what.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 March 2013):
 It's not that you are not good enough for her... it's that she's not good enough for herself (in her mind)
she needs the ego stroke of others and wants the security of you on a leash waiting for her.
I'd end it with her and move on... she will not be happy but it's for your sanity... you cannot and never will trust her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 March 2013):
 You ask (me/us): "What is going on?"
I ask you: What difference does it make? This girl really has not exhibited much real interest in you... so you're better off leaving her by herself and getting on with your OWN life....
Good luck....
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 She obviously isn't happy with you which is her loss obviously!!
She doesn't want you to break up with her because she is probably waiting until she finds someone that is in her eyes better.
Don't waste your time or money on her she isn't worth it.
You deserve so much more than that!! Her story is obviously a load of trash and she doesn't deserve you or any other lad that wants to give her the time of day.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (1 March 2013):
 I would not even bother contacting her again.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (1 March 2013):
 Congratulations. You have landed yourself an internet cheat. The only thing that is certain in your future is a lot more uncertainty. Forget her. Do not go back. You will only end up getting even more confused, paranoid and insecure.
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reader, somewhere_between +, writes (1 March 2013):
 Her phone is switched off either because she is embarrassed or to give her time to get some back up for her lie. She will not want to lose you unless someone she believes is better comes along. I think it would be far better for you long term if her phone stays switched off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): I think you are the one who should have just left well enough alone when you broke up. You knew the history she has with those sites, and I mean honestly her "friend" would have to know her hubby's user name on whatever site it is for your gf to find him on there which is highly unlikely that the wife would know what her husbands username is on a dating website. She is full of it and you are better to just leave it alone and move on, no point in waiting around for her to cheat on you or give you an std because she has cheated on you.
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