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writes:hi i need some help, im very scared :(me and my bf hav been together a year, im 19 and pregnant with his baby, he's lied to me in the past about where he was going, he's given me 3stds, im proper possessive over him as i suspect hes bin cheatin on me, he deletes msgs frm girls on his phn, he goes out for hours n i doesnt answer the phn and iv seen profiles of him on over 20casual sex sites. he told me he hates porn and 2nyt i went on his ipod touch and saw he has bin on a porn site, i asked him bout it and he said it was some1 else and swore it wasnt him, i was curious bout wht porn as on his history over the past week there were videos, wen i clicked on it, he turned voilent, grabbed my wrist and tried to get the ipod off me, wen i wouldnt give it him he twisted my arm and shouted until i gave up, i got really upset, crying, shaking and thn started having ago at me when i said i dno what i want anymore. he jst kept asking "do u love me yes or no" "if u dnt giv me a hug u obv dnt love me" we are ment to be movin out in little over a week, my mum says she cant keep me as she cant afford to feed me, my child benifit will stop in sept as i had to quit college, my mum n dad dnt work, my dads 72 so only has pension money. i cant work as im 4months pregnant, if i dnt move in with him im homeless, i cant afford a baby on my own, im so confused help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Sweety can't you stay with any friends of yours? if not I guess you could always try working, if that does not work i hate to say these why don't u start looking for group homes or something? its better than being homeless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Why can't you work? At four months, you can work I think unless you are having complications. I got married at four months and fit perfectly into my dress. No one had a clue. You don't have to tell your employer that you're pregnant. and then once you do start showing, they can't fire you because of it. If yo u are already showing, then you can hide it untill you get enormous by wearing the right clothing and a jacket if need be. If you get a job, you will get maternity leave Ithink, depending on your hours and such you would have to look into it. But that would mean you get paid while you're away taking care of your baby, and then weeks later you still have the same job to go back to.
Do you have a friend? A really good friend who can help you out until you get back on your feet? Aunt. Uncle, Cousin??
You may have to live with him, if it is truely the one and only option for you. Can you deal with him a little longer until you can get out on your own? Get a job and enough money? Being stuck with him right now doesn't mean you have to be stuck with him forever.
But truely, you don't have any friend whatsoever who will let you stay a while?
Let us know.
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): well u gota get away from him but dont let him run away from his responsibilities there are people and places u can go 2 for help so ur not alone or homeless its your life take control
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