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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, my problem is my boyfriend. I want to go our separate ways but he keeps calling me and i don`t want to be rude so i answer. The reason i want to spilt is because he gets angry over little things, is controlling and borrows money and never gives it back. What should i do?
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reader, Ginger fish  +, writes (2 January 2015):
 Being firm isn't being rude but YOU have to come first here, and if you have to be harsh to do so, then so be it. This guy obviously had no qualms about being an angry dick to you so why worry about his feelings over your own because it doesn't sound like he's been to concerned about yours. If you don't want to talk to him send him an email telling him why and TELLING him NOT asking him to leave you alone. I know his kind of person and from my experience he just wants his ATM back. Block him on your phone, block him after you send him an email and block him on Facebook and he will get the point. All it is is he can't deal with the fact that your moving on. You deserve a real man a good man a gentleman :)
Good luck :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 January 2015):
 Tell him exactly that. " I am no longer interested in being your girlfriend because you
a. are controlling
b. have anger issues
c. owe me money
if you have told him this then you owe him NOTHING.
tell him that. say it's over
block him and move on....
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (2 January 2015):
Hi. if this guy is being controlling and wanting money then you are within your rights to not reply or have contact with him. Don't feel obliged. Why should you?
I was with a guy who was always asking for money & handouts - I was infatuated with him - until one day I just thought - does he want me or my money? So I just never bothered replying to him again.
If you do the same - you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders! Good luck.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (2 January 2015):
 Sometimes we have to overcome those little inner voices that give us a bum steer, which is where the "don't be rude" thing is coming from.
It is going to be tough going against such an ingrained (and incorrect) thought, but you can do it ..... next time he calls take a big deep breath and say "I don't want you to call me any more" and don't wait for a response (its not rude) but simply end the call, THEN block his number, or get a new one. Block him on all social networking sites as well, and if he comes knocking on your door get your dad or a big burly bloke to have a quiet word with him on the side.
C'mon, do yourself a favour and start the new year as you would like it to continue, free of this user and abuser!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 January 2015):
 Honeypie has got it right!This stalker is borderline OCD and will never "get it" unless you draw him a big ol' graph and tell him IT IS OVER! Then change your phone number. it takes twelve minutes at your cell phone dealership. It might cost you a few dimes but it'll be worth it to get the dude to catch a hint when the answer he gets is: We're sorry but this number is no longer in service and there is no forwarding number available"
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 January 2015):
Tell him it's over and you don't want to talk to him anymore. If he keeps calling after that he's the one being rude.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 January 2015):
 Block his number? Or get a new phonenumber.. OR here is novel idea... PUT on some BIG girl panties and tell him, I'm sorry I don't see us having a future, so this is the end for me. I wish you all the best, but I'm done dating you. Then proceed to telling him you no longer wants contact.
If he doesn't respect that THEN you go ahead and block him.
Ending a relationship IS not being RUDE, it's being honest. YOU don't WANT to be with him, so TELL him. He will get over it. Dragging it out.... THAT on the other hand, IS rude.
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