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I want to see him again. Shall I turn up at his home unannounced? Or text him when I am nearby to give him a choice of seeing me or not?

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Question - (27 February 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 27 February 2013)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm in a recent FWB relationship, with a good friend of mine.

Both of us have been hurt in the last year by bad relationships so we don't want anything other then just sex. Both of us have been real busy so in the last two weeks since we discussed it, we are yet to meet up.

Just three nights ago though we spent night sexting each other, also we live an hr away.

My question is tomorrow i know he doesn't have tafe or work, so guys, what would you do if ur fwb(who is a good friend) turned up on your door and txt u to say they are outside.

Would u be up for sex? (he hasn't had sex in three months) and is getting sexually frustrated at not being able to find the time.

would i be better turning up and just ringing the bell? Or turning up and txting him to give him the choice to open or not?

or would i be best txting when im close to his house, and.tell him if his free to meet me at the door in 5 or to not open the door? I think if i turn up he would give himself a break (thursdays he spends studying. ).

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (27 February 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntjust because I don't have to work does not mean I'll be home on a day off...

why didn't you two make plans to meet up if you were free and he was free and it's been so long?

why in the world would you ambush him like this and actually try to FORCE HIS HAND?

sounds to me like he is toying with you, not really interested in FWB and you are interested in it more than him.... do you somehow think that being FWB with him will draw you closer... it won't... the friendship will not survive FWB.... especially if you are the one rowing the relationship boat. (stating the contact, going to see him etc)

never go see a man for sex in hopes he will care more... and never just show up... I mean seriously...

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 February 2013):

Honeypie agony aunt

Always call first, and NOT from his driveway. Give him a call BEFORE you leave your house so you know if you even need to get in the car.

Don't treat someone as your personal sex-toy because another person hurt you in the past.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (27 February 2013):

I don't know why all of your options involve turning up with little or no warning, because if you don't know him well enough to know which is a good option then they're all bad options. You should always call before you go to someone's house for a booty call.

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