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writes: Please I need some advice, because I have totally made myself look like an "ass". Basically, I was going out with a man for many many years, and we broke up a couple of months ago. So, we decided to meet up for the first time ever since our break up. We had a nice night, but then I tried a move on him, since we did not have sex for a very long time before we broke up (my choice) and because I was really into him.So I tried to kiss him, and he rejected me, I made a joke about it later on the phone, but I think I totaly messed things up between us, I think it is totally over since I got this awkward reaction from himand he will probably be scared to see me again. What do I do, I totally want him back... By the way he has a girlfriend, but breaking up with her... What can I do to repair things up? and I guess it means that it is totally over in his head and maybe did not want to hurt me? I wasn't expecting this at alll.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 DO NOT WORRY IT IS NORMAL
you were a couple for a long time it was smething automatic, say it to him you felt like kissing him as u used to and it happens, I think he is scared of trying again just that
be friends is an option if something has to happen it will, please take it quietly as something natural dear
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reader, bonym  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 I agree with all the previous advice, if he is currently going through a breakup, he probably took you by surprise and the way he reacted was to move away. Give him some time and a bit of space first because if he is finishing with his present girlfriend there are perhaps other issues he has to deal with emotionally etc so he need a bit of space. xXx
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reader, stina  +, writes (28 August 2006):
 he probably didn't kiss you because he hasn't yet broken up with his girlfriend. it's a good sign though, because that shows he has respect (for the both his gf and you!). don't bring up the kiss anymore. try to hang out with him again in the future and see where it leads (after he's broken up with this girl). right now he is probably just emotionally distraught with knowing that you still like him and being in the middle of a break up. i think he just has to figure out what he wants. and at least he's not leading you on! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2006): you know you don't realise what you've lost till it's gone. basically to build up a guys trust it's going to take a while because hes afraid that you'll hurt him again. not much you can really do buddy, you just gotta wait and see what his going to do.. bear in mind we can forgive people for mistakes but you can never forget them. when he rejected you thats a clear msg he doesn't want anything to do with you for the time being weather it's short term or long term only he holds the answer what others say are assumptions but the real answer is within him
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (28 August 2006):
 maybe he doesnt want to get close plus his head will be messed up if he is ready to break up with his recent girlfriend give him a while to get back to normal then talk to him tell him how you really feel then see what happens but remember dont get your hopes up maybe he has moved on just being honest cheersxx
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