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female
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30-35,
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writes:Yesterday, I spoke with my husband, and told him that things just weren’t the same anymore. I didn’t feel loved by him and things are just different now, so it would be better for us to move on. We have tried and tried but he just doesn’t want to change. He didn’t really say anything and just asked me to give him a week to find somewhere else to stay. We had been separated for 2 years and during that time we both did our own thing, which was fine but he hasn’t let go and still acts like he’s single. I’m constantly finding texts from other females, him asking them out, telling them he’s single, etc. There was even one from his ex where he told her she would always be in his heart. That hurt me so bad. He doesn’t tell me I love you anymore and seems annoyed sometimes. Every time I’ve told him to leave all he says is his kids hurt him, he never mentions me. We got back together because I got pregnant and now I’m pregnant again. I’ve never disrespected him with anybody else ever. I know better than that. I think he keeps doing it because he knows I’ll take him right back. I’m so hurt right now I don’t know what he wants. I’ve tried talking to him and he tells me he loves me yada yada, but if you love someone you don’t hurt them. I’m crying because I don’t know if I did the right thing or if I’ll regret it later. I really need some advice on how to handle him if he asks to come back or if he just decides to move on. I’m just so hurt and confused I don’t have anybody around me for emotional support.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 When did he tell the other woman he was single? Before or after he found out you were pregnant again? Can you raise another child on your own? Do you still want him back and want to work things out or not? If you do, then I think you should ask him to go to marriage counseling with you and see how it goes.
But he has to agree to end all contact with other women immediately. And show you his phone and internet passwords whenever you ask him to. No cheating and no secrets. Or it's over for good.
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