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writes:I'm a 20-year-old university student studying Psychology in London. Recently I have been able to get back into lectures after being off for nearly a month with a chest inefection and intermittent bouts of depression. Prior to that, I have always noticed this girl in my lectures who I find attractive. She is a sweet girl, a little shy but nevertheless lovely to talk to. I feel that we would have a lot in common and get on very well.Recently I started trying to get to know her. Over a couple of weeks I have started sitting next to her friends and have become decently acquainted with them. She sits next to another girl, who she is good friends with, and a boy, with similar effect. Essentially they are in between.I find it difficult to talk to her because after lectures, they assume that I am doing something else, or in fact go back to their houses. Nothing happens after. I plucked the courage once to ask her if she is around to do something - with her friends if she wanted - soon. She agreed, and said to message her on Facebook. I did, and nothing came of it.How should I go about pressing the issue? I don't have a lot of confidence in myself but I am dilligently chipping away at that issue. I don't think she has either, but her network of close friends at university helps a lot. I really want to get to know her, but need some effective strategies. Almost always she is surrounded by her friends, which can make things difficult. Don't get me wrong, her friends are fine. I like them, and they are great. But clearly the issue lies in wanting to get to know her.Any ideas?Thanks
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (19 February 2015):
 One way of making somebody notice that you are interested in them is to keep catching their eye. Look at her directly and hold the eye contact for a second longer than normal. Look at her while she is looking away. She will probably sense that somebody is looking at her and look up. When she sees you just smile. Obviously don't overdo it but try a gradual build up of 'catching her eye'. She may start to respond and smile back at you. If she's not interested she'll probably start to feel a bit uncomfortable so I'm afraid you'll have to give up. However, I really hope this little exercise works for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2015): A woman might like if you pull her aside and talk to her but you can suggest , maybe when your not busy with your friends we can talk more at (public place). Or tell her you want to catch up on some work that you've been tryna to talk to her mainly
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