A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend are heading down that breakup path, I have my last homecoming next weekend and we have been dying to go together all year. We are best friends, but I am moving 4 hours away in a week and we've been together about 8 months. He's been promising for months that he would do whatever it takes to stay with me. He's completely changed now, flirting with other girls and treating me like I'm just a friend. He gets an attitude extremely fast, and I can never bring up anything serious without him getting really mad, never like he used too. (I'll add his father is in the military and his parents are divorced, he rarely sees his dad.) He tells me im being depressing. Im just trying to understand. He won't tell me his true feelings, so he is pretty much dragging me along. Which is making the situation much worse. I havent seen him in about a week.I really love him and want to share next week with him before I leave, but he's been breaking my heart, and avoiding me. I've deleted my facebook to prevent anymore drama but I am just so heartbroken and I feel stuck in this unhealthy pattern. I know he loves me but he is just defending himself. Are there any tips to make this week a little stress free? We've already distanced ourselves a lot, but he still texts me and says that he loves me more than anything and that he'll never love anyone as much as he loves me and that he thinks of me every second of the day. Mixed signals?! He also says he wants to be friends when I move and visit me all the time. I don't think I can do that though. Do men always go from relationship to friendship without any problems? I know I definitely can't do that, I need time to heal. I want him to be in my life but he seems to be getting over it rather quickly, or hiding his emotions. He is so confusing I can't keep up. I feel depressed and down all the time, and I spend too much time trying to figure out what is going on in his head! This is so unhealthy for me but I really want to tough it out another week, just so we end on good terms. Is there any advice? I'm at my breaking point. I feel like its me that is the problem, but he could have some buried emotional issues that could cause this strange behavior? Is there any way I could help him? Even though I'm the upset and depressed one right now, I always think of him first.
View related questions:
best friend, depressed, divorce, facebook, flirt, heartbroken, military, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Ciar  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 This isn't what you want to hear, but your boyfriend's signals are crystal clear to me. He cares about you but he is no longer in love. He is withdrawing from you, putting out feelers and making post relationship plans. He wants to end things on a good note too which is why he hasn't broken up with you. No need to since your relocation will accomplish that for him. He might be more inspired to spend some quality time with you before you go if he has his freedom now.
|
