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writes: I'm in love with an amazing guy who completes me but something is in the way of us being together and that person is his girlfriend. I have been inlove wit him 4 bout 5 months but had a crush on him 4 a year and a half but he ays he wants us to be together but he is only gonna break up wit his girlfriend at the end of the year. i wud wait 4 him 4eva f I had 2 but its hurtin seeing him wit another girl he loves me and I know that but I feel f he really did as much as he says then him and i wud be together without anyone being in the way im jus scared and really need help cuz I'm loosing myself and Im only 16 years old. I know this seems as f its jus that i should move on and that he is jus like most guys but this time its really different and i have no one to talk to know one understands. Im scared really am please help
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 If he really wanted to be with you and not his girlfriend then he would be, nothing would stop him. hes quite happy having you as a bit on the side. Why is he leaving it so long to leave her if things are that bad ? Come on hes playing you for a fool, hes got you to run to for the extra bit of fun and her to stay with for commitment. Any guy thats already in a realtionship that then starts a new one before finishing that, is a rat and normally has no intention of leaving his current girlfriend. If they really wanted to start something new they would and wouldnt hang on to the past, no matter what excuse they come up with its cheating. even if he did leave her, hes only setting up a pattern to do the same to you later on down the line, how could you trust him. His girlfriend is also obviously unaware that hes cheating and that means he has no respect for her feelings let alone yours. Get out honey while you can and find someonet that will not just be turning to you for a bit on the side, but someone that wants to be with you and you only!
take care x
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Sorry, hon. The only "amazing" thing about your guy is that he's managed to convince you that he's going to break up with his girlfriend.
He sounds like a bit of an egotist and just wants to have two girls, and for that reason I can put my hand on my heart and give you a solemn promise that he ~won't~ break up with his girlfriend. First it'll be because she had some terrible news, then it'll be because she's doing exams, and then it'll be because he brother's sick... On and on and on. He'll string you along for as long as you'll fall for it.
Furthermore, you have to be suspiscious of a guy who seems to know (what? telepathically?) that he's going to be unhappy with his relationship by the end of the year!
And if he'd be this duplicitous with his current girlfriend, why wouldn't he do the same to you?
Please wake up and stop pining for this deceptive man!
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reader, chirpychicken +, writes (15 July 2006):
 I agree with ariel completely. men can be rats and this one is behaving like a typical lying cheatn who will never change. i know you love him but dont forget that he has a girlfriend and just imagine it if the shoe was on the other foot? how would you like it if you were her? sort it out and leave him...hes no good for you!
hope you sort things out.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (15 July 2006):
 You are being strung along honey. Either tell him you ain't doing second best or get out now!! He will mess with your head!
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (15 July 2006):
 Honey, you are a sucker.
If your amazing man was a man at all he would break up with his girlfriend now. I am willing to bet that by the end of this year he will tell you that he is going to marry his girlfriend out of obligation.
This guy acts just like a married man who wants to have a tasty side dish - you. This scenario is repeated often on this forum. Go and have a look. If you want to be the main course, you had best give him an ultimatum and soon. Until that time comes you will not know his true measure.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (15 July 2006):
the first question you should ask youself is why he is going to be breaking up with his girlfriend. Then you should think if he could do this to you later
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2006): What are his reasons for not breaking up with his girlfriend straight away?
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