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writes:Well basically I'm 13 and I dont know what to do.... I met this guy online and he's really sweet and I really love him and he loves me but he lives 500 miles away in Essex and I want to be with him so badly but I can't because he lives that far away Oh yea also another reason why I can't is because my parents don't know about him... Help me please I've considered about running away but there's loads of problems like money and education help me please ): x x
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (22 September 2010):
xX_Kitty_Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy parents are also very over protective of me and hardly give me any space and also he isn't a pedophile we've spoken ect. before and he's made alot of sacrifices like he said he wouldn't join the army ( because I don't really like the idea of it :L ) and he treats me as if I'm a somebody and like I'm special and wanted. As you cans probably tell most guys at my school are complete dicks to me :/ ...
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 September 2010):
 I know it is hard to talk to parents at your age because you think they wont understand anything, but I'm sure if you just are honest with them, tell them that you have a boyfriend but he lives 500 miles away etc. then I'm sure they will try and be ok with it.
They might be worried about your safety because he is an online boyfriend and he might not be who he says he is - after all you dont really know if he is 16, if he lives in Essex....you are just trusting what he says when really he could be a 50 year old pedophile! So expect your parents to be a bit worried for your safety as that is normal, but the fact that you have been honest with them and talked to them about it will make the situation better, if you are mature enough to talk to them about it then they will be more likely to accept the situation.
So be brave and just tell them, it is not like you can meet up with this guy so the relationship is pretty harmless as it is just online. Explain to your parents that you really like each other and want to keep on talking, but you have no plans to meet up because you live too far away so they have nothing to worry about. Even suggest that they can chat to him maybe? They would be much happier about the situation if they can talk online to him, or even better via webcam, so they can start to trust him and get to know him a bit. They cant really stop you talking to someone online, after all it is just talking and it is pretty harmless as you are not going to be able to meet up any time soon.
Remember, honesty is always the best policy and your parents will appreciate you telling them the truth.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (21 September 2010):
xX_Kitty_Xx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way hes 16 and i never really talk to my parents about anything :L ... Thats why they dont know about him Also im worried that if they did know about him that they would stop me talking to him .. :/
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reader, samantha7171  +, writes (21 September 2010):
My advice to you is, you are only 13yrs old, your key intrest at this point in your life should be your education. That is the key to your success, the boys will come and go at this age in your life. He live over 500 miles away from you, and the only thing that you know is what you hear or see over the computer.....that is not the safes way to meet some, and to make it worse is that you want to run away to meet him...... girl do you watch the news with all this crime regarding run away kids going to meet guys and some of them possibly never found or found dead. Girl you are to smart and intelligent to want to take this rought in life. Take into consideration the life that God gave you and be grateful for it, cherish it, and make you proud and then others proud by doing the right thing.
STAY IN SCHOOL...and dont be no FOOL.... BOYS WILL COME and they will go....get your education....you can do it..BE STRONG......DON'T GO looking for love in all the wrong places....if there's a problem at home...talk to your guidance councellor at school, or some adult with some wisdom ok.....,
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 September 2010):
Obviously you cannot run away - you are far too young to live by yourself and it would only make the situation worse so you need to forget that idea.
As for the guy you have met online:
1. How old is he?
2. Are you 100% certain you can trust him and he is who he says he is?
3. What sort of website did you meet through?
And another question - you seem worried that your parents dont know about him, which indicates that you are scared to tell them about him - why is this? Why would your parents not be ok with you having a boyfriend?
As Kenji said, you can have a long distance relationship if you are really serious about him and you both want to make it work. So you would have to be happy with talking on line, on the phone, texts, emails etc and then maybe in the school holidays make plans to see him? Obviously you would have to tell your parents, and he would have to tell his parents - and then maybe they might even let him come stay at your house and sleep in the spare room/on the couch etc.
Distance is not such a big deal these days as we can have so much contact via the internet, and great things like web cams are around so you can even talk face to face. But 500 miles is a long way, and at your age you want a boyfriend who you can go to the cinema with and hold hands etc. So it is up to you to decide whether you can make this work, and if it is what you want. Or whether you would rather him not be your boyfriend and you wait for a guy to come along who lives nearby.
If you really do love each other then your love will survive the distance between you two and it will make you stronger, meaning that even though it will be hard not being close to each other, your love is enough to pull you through.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Kenj +, writes (21 September 2010):
 It is still possible to have a long distance relationship and they can work too. It depends how much effort you both take in keeping in touch.If its all true love and not just infatuation right now then waiting until your old enough to leave home wont be an issue.
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